What Is Being An Authentic Self?
Being authentic is to come from a real place within yourself. It’s when your actions and words align with your beliefs and values. Also, it’s not caring about what other people think of you, especially when you’re expressing your whole self genuinely.
However, when you were growing up you might have been taught behaviors and standards by your parents and teachers that were intended to lay out rules for adapting to different situations, which is fine but this can lead to behaviors that aren’t authentic.
Consequences Of Not Being Authentic?!
When you’re living as your authentic self you’re trying to live truthfully and honestly, without trying to hide your feelings or being afraid to admit your weaknesses along with your strengths.
There are many reasons why you’ll try to hide who you really are.
Here’s an example! At work you might take on more assignments than you can actually handle. This is usually due to not only gain recognition within your organization, but furthering your career as well., which it not necessarily a bad thing.
However, there are a lot of people who also want recognition and success, but they seek it in inauthentic ways.
For example they may seek validation by trying to please others, they’re preoccupied with what others think of them, they have a fear of being disrespected, they have an unwillingness to ask for help when they need it, “faking” it and they’ll put their own needs aside in order to become successful.
This way of inauthentic thinking has consequences on your physical and mental health. After constantly behaving in that way day after day it takes its toll.
Emotional Consequences Include:
- Low Self Esteem
- Lower Self Confidence
- Low Self Worth
- Feeling Trapped
- Low Self Respect
Physical Consequences Include:
- Lack of Self Care
- High Blood Pressure
Inauthentic living can not only damage your overall well being it can be a nightmare for someone who suffers from a chronic physical or mental health ailment. If you’re suffering from diabetes, hypertension, bipolar disorder, PTSD, major depression or an anxiety disorder it’s like dumping gasoline on a fire.
If you have a mental health condition such as bipolar disorder it’s common to have depressive episodes where you may feel low self worth, not respect yourself and also have tension, anxiety and high blood pressure.
When you’re not being your authentic self whether you’re at work or you’re with somebody you can experience stress and anxiety in addition to bipolar disorder.
Tips For Authenticity
Learning how to be your authentic self is important for not only your career and relationships it’s important for improving your overall well being.
Here Are Some Tips For Authenticity Include:
Identify Your Values and Incorporate Them Into Your Actions: It’s important to know what you value. Values are the glue that hold your actions together, for example only when you value self worth is when you’re able to take action for what you want, not what someone else wants.
Be Courageous Enough To Be Vulnerable: Being vulnerable is the willingness to take a risk and expose yourself emotionally and at the same time be able to endure the uncertainty of the results. It takes a lot of strength to be vulnerable and will allow you to connect with others on a deeper level and become more authentic.
Stop People Pleasing: Stop with equating success with trying to please everyone. You’re a human being and you’re hardwired for connection and to be in relationships. You’ll find that you’ll not only thrive when you connect with others, you’ll also feel less anxious and more authentic and that’s good if you suffer from a mental illness.
Healthier Boundaries: Having boundaries is being comfortable with who you are. You’ll learn that you don’t have to change yourself to be liked or neglecting your own needs. By setting boundaries you’ll have less anxiety.
Better Health: Being your authentic self means to not neglect your need to stay healthy. You’re more likely to eat healthy, get regular exercise and get regular physical exams, also your mental health improves when there’s less internal conflict with who you should be in order to please others. You’ll have a healthier life.
How Are You Being Authentic?
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