Have you ever been in a bad mood? Do you have anger issues? Do they affect your daily life? How do you manage anger? What are some better ways to manage anger?
What Kind Of Emotion Is Anger?
Anger is an emotion you feel when something is not working out. Also, it happens when someone offends you.
There are primary emotions such as fear and stress that can be found underneath your anger. Fear can include things such as anxiety and worry as well as sadness that comes from a loss or disappointment.
We all feel anger from time to time. It’s a normal response to hard or annoying situations.
Anger becomes a problem when you display it too much and affects your day to day life. Also, it’s a problem when it affects the way you relate to people. When this happens, it may a sign of anger issues.
Here’s an interesting fact, anger is an emotion that can range in intensity. It can range from getting annoyed by the slightest inconveniance to getting enraged by the ultimate betrayal.
Why Do You Get Angry?
Anger is an emotion that has many triggers. These include loss of patience for an annoying person or feeling as if your opinion or efforts aren’t appreciated. Also, any kind of injustice or memories of traumatic or enraging events along with worrying about personal problems.
Feeling stressed, having family problems as well as financial issues trigger anger.
For some people, anger is caused by an underlying disorder, such as alcohol abuse or depression. Anger itself is not a disorder, but it’s partly the result of symptoms caused by many mental disorders including bipolar disorder.
Some people have mental disorders that can result in anger issues.
Signs of Anger Issues
There are many signs of an underlying anger issue. It can cause you to want to hurt others because you always find yourself being angry.
Most of the time, you feel that your anger is out of control. You frequently regret something you’ve said or done when angry. Also, you notice that small or petty things make you angry.
How Anger Affects Your Life?
Anger is an emotion that can be positive at times. However it more often affects your life in a negative way.
It can cost you your health by raising your blood pressure as well as give you a headache. Anger can lead to poor sleep, increased anxiety as well as depression. Extreme anger over the long term can lead to a heart attack.
If you have bipolar disorder, being angry can be a sign of a mood episode. Also anger can be a trigger for mood episodes.
Anger leads to lower self worth due to feelings of guilt, shame, embarrassment as well as remorse. It feels worse when you become aware of how overblown or how your response was unwarranted.
Anger can destroy relationships, it destroys marriages, breaks up families and also ruins families.
When your anger is overblown and unwarranted at work it can cost you everything you have accomplished. As a result you’re terminated from your job.
What Are Some Better Ways To Manage Anger?
Again, anger is an emotion we all feel from time to time. It’s a response to something that annoys or upsets us.
When it happens, there are healthier and better ways of managing anger.
Becoming Self-Aware That You’re Angry:
Being self-aware is noticing things about yourself. It’s about noticing your feelings as well as physical sensations. Also, it’s about noticing your reactions, habits, behaviors as well as thoughts. Being self-aware that you’re angry helps you to react in a healthy way.
Here’s a related post: “Let’s Explore How Self-Awareness Leads To A Better Self”.
When you’re getting angry, you may notice that you have a headache as well as a rapid heart rate. Also, you might feel dizzy as well as physically tense.
Once you’re aware that you’re angry before you react to it, you can manage it in a healthy way. For example, when you’re angry don’t lash out at someone, instead lean into it by channeling that negative energy into exercising or simply go to a quiet place to take a break.
Don’t Deny That You’re Angry:
In a previous post, “Toxic Positivity In A Nutshell”. we explored toxic positivity.
Toxic positivity invalidates how you truly feel. As a result, you feel sad and ashamed for feeling angry.
Emotions that are not positive like anger are swept under the mat and repressed. When this happens, it builds up and you get more angry. As a result, you may end up venting your anger in a not so healthy way.
Being positive is a great place to be, but be realistic about it. Even the most positive minded people have bad days and get angry.
Get Moving:
Exercise helps with your overall well being. It helps with mood, self-esteem as well as your self-control ability.
When you exercise, it’s a great way to channel your anger. As a result, you get a boost of positive energy and it also helps you relax.
If you have bipolar disorder, you can problems with having not enough serotonin affecting how you respond to anger. When you exercise, your body releases more serotonin that boosts your mood.
Talk To Someone:
If you have a problem with managing anger, it helps to talk to someone.
Talking to a therapist helps you to manage anger better. Also, it helps to talk to a friend or family member when you’re angry. If they’re the ones upsetting you talk to them about why you’re angry with them.
Relax:
One of the best ways to manage anger is to take a break and relax.
When you’re feeling angry, it helps to channel that emotion into something tangible like a hobby. Also, it helps to focus on your breathing and enjoy the present moment.
How Do You Manage Anger?
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