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Applying 2020 Lessons To Your Life

The year 2020 was described as being a “Dumpster Fire”!

The term “Dumpster Fire” describes something that’s a colossal mess. It’s something that no one wants to deal with and makes someone very anxious.

Year Of Intense Anxiety

Intense anxiety affected us all over and over again in 2020. 

From fear over COVID-19 to the isolating effects of social distancing fed the dumpster fire. Also, social and political unrest, natural disasters and financial struggles have fed it even more.

Many people have never experienced mental health issues like anxiety until 2020. Also, they’re very anxious about what 2021 is going to bring. 

Anxious Before 2020

There are a lot of people who’ve been living with an anxiety disorder, long before 2020.

For some their symptoms got worse, but for a few symptoms improved. 

Those few sufferers felt equipped to handle the present. They took the time and effort to work on their mental health and they also learned valuable life lessons along the way.

Life Lessons For Coping With A New World

The year 2020 has taught us many lessons to live by. These are the same lessons that chronic anxiety sufferers live by.

Life Lessons Include:

Self-Care Is A Priority, Not A Privilege

It’s hard to put yourself first. You have to pay attention to work, your family and other obligations.

Self Care is the attention paid to yourself in the spirit of growth and wellness. It’s important for staying healthy.

It’s often seen as a luxury. At times it’s mistaken for self-absorption and “me first”. However, self-care is really an important necessity for taking care of yourself, so you can take care of others.

Failure Is Inevitable For Success

Small or big changes in our lives happen that tear us down and cause us to fail.

Failure might make us feel unworthy for not succeeding. I got news for you, it’s an inevitable part of life.

Instead of seeing failure as a bad thing it’s important to see it differently. Failure should remind you to approach a goal in a different way based on the lessons you’ve learned. You might end up reemerging stronger than ever.

Things Aren’t Always What They Seem

Staying open minded is important, because things aren’t always what they seem.

Sometimes people, situations and certain events end up being different that how we see them. It comes to show that how you see a situation is neither correct, nor your beliefs are well adjusted.

Our minds have a habit of jumping to conclusions and rushing into things.

Be Intentional With Everything You Do

What does this mean? It means to live with intention, which means to consciously choose to create the life you want.

It also means to not have your life dictated by other people. Instead you do everything with a clear purpose and focus.

Listen To Your Gut Instinct

A gut feeling is something only you experience. It’s a personal feeling that no one else can weigh in on except you.

Often, its anxiety that comes as tightness in your chest or stomach.

It’s an intuition that tells you that a situation is off. Listening to it helps you avoid unhealthy relationships and situations.

Don’t Waste Your Time With People And Things That Don’t Add Value To Your Life

This is very important. It makes anxiety worse when you spend time with the wrong people. They’ll not only add zero value to your life, they also make your anxiety worse.

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How Did 2020 Affect You?

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Sources:

https://www.psychiatry.org/newsroom/news-releases/anxiety-poll-2020

https://www.ama-assn.org/delivering-care/public-health/treating-pandemic-wave-anxiety-depression-requires-team-effort

https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/69/wr/mm6932a1.htm#:~:text=The%20coronavirus%20disease%202019%20(,same%20period%20in%202019.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/people-say-anxiety-changed-2020_l_5f7f3914c5b664e5baba8de3

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mental-illness-in-america/202001/making-self-care-priority

https://exploringyourmind.com/stay-open-minded-things-arent-what-they-seem/

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B Vitamins For A Better Mind!

What are B Vitamins?

B vitamins refer to a class of water-soluble vitamins that are vital for maintaining good health and well being. 

They are building blocks for a healthy body that have a direct impact on your energy levels, cell metabolism and also brain health.

B Vitamins Include:

  • B1 (Thiamine): Helps your body generate energy from carbohydrates. The main role of carbohydrates is to provide energy for your body, especially your brain and nervous system.
  • B2 (Riboflavin): Helps your body breakdown carbohydrates, protein and fats to produce energy.
  • B3 (Niacin): A B vitamin made and used by your body to turn food into energy. It helps keep your nervous system, digestive system and your skin healthy.
  • B5 (Pantothenic Acid): Very important for making blood cells and helps convert your food into energy. 
  • B6 (Pyridone): Helps your body make energy from food and form red blood cells that help deliver oxygen throughout your body. B6 also regulates the hormones dopamine and serotonin.
  • B7 (Biotin): Your body needs Biotin to convert certain nutrients into energy. It’s also important for your hair, skin and nails.
  • B9 (Folate): Helps form your DNA, which is important for every cell (Including Brain Cells) in your body.
  • B12 (Cobalamin): Helps your body make energy from food just like B6. It keeps your body’s nerve and red blood cells healthy, and helps make DNA for all cells.

B vitamins play a vital role in producing brain chemicals that affect your mood and other brain functions. 

Low levels of B vitamins such as Folate, B12 and B6 have been linked to mental health problems such as anxiety and depression, along with worsening the symptoms of mental disorders such as bipolar disorder.

Where Do You Get B Vitamins?

B Vitamins are obtained by eating nutrient-rich foods. 

These Include:

  • Avocados: Long before avocados were considered a stereotypical millennial stable they’ve been regarded as a superfood. One whole avocado is packed with B vitamins.
  • Plain Low Fat Yogurt: The amount of nutritional value varies from brand to brand, but they tend to be rich in vitamin B12 and riboflavin.
  • Salmon: This is a low mercury fish that’s high in omega 3’s. It’s also high in other nutrients including B vitamins.
  • Chicken: Chicken, along with turkey are loaded with B vitamins such as niacin and pyridoxine.
  • Eggs: One chicken egg contains 33% of the recommended daily intake of the B vitamin biotin.
  • Chickpeas: Foods such as chickpeas are a great source of B vitamins, especially B6 and folate.
  • Tofu: Along with being a valuable plant source of iron and calcium, tofu contains vitamin B1.
  • Dark Green Vegetables: Vegetables such as spinach, romaine lettuce and kale contain large amounts of folate.

However, there are people with bodies that have a hard time absorbing B vitamins or they can’t obtain B vitamins from diet alone.

There are many vegetables that could lose of their nutritional content while being cooked. Unless you eat them raw.

Some people have cut meat out of their diets which is a significant source of vitamin B12.

It’s recommended that they look into taking a multivitamin or a vitamin B complex supplement.

What Is Vitamin B Complex?

Vitamin B-Complex is a supplement that includes all eight B vitamins in one pill.

It’s been shown to improve brain health by providing optimal psychological and neurological benefits. This significantly benefits mood along with reducing stress.

Despite the added benefits of a vitamin B supplement there are health risks as the dosage goes up, so talk to your doctor first before taking it.

Bipolar Disorder And B Vitamins

Bipolar Disorder is associated with episodes of mood swings that range from depressive low moods to manic/hypomanic highs.

Symptoms include mood swings, depression, anxiety, fatigue, irritability, inability to focus and appetite fluctuations.

The exact cause is unknown but a combination of genetics, environment and altered brain structure and chemistry play a role. An often overlooked factor that plays a role is poor diet.

A poor diet deficient in nutritional content can play a role in bipolar disorder, especially low B vitamins.

Studies have shown that vitamins B1, B6 and B12, in particular play a role in decreasing bipolar symptoms. Also they improve the overall health of your brain, which leads to better management of bipolar disorder.

Please talk to your doctor before increasing the amount of B vitamins in your diet.

Do you take any supplements to improve your health?

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https://www.healthline.com/health/food-nutrition/vitamin-b-complex

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/expert-answers/vitamin-b12-and-depression/faq-20058077

https://www.eatthis.com/best-foods-vitamin-b/

https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminB12-Consumer/#:~:text=Vitamin%20B12%20is%20a%20nutrient,absorb%20vitamin%20B12%20from%20food.

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https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/vitamin-b-foods#TOC_TITLE_HDR_5

https://www.webmd.com/diet/health-benefits-b-complex#1

https://psychcentral.com/lib/vitamins-for-bipolar-disorder/

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Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs was the topic of my previous blog post. They’re assumptions or perceptions about ourselves and the world around us that constrain us in some way. They shape our lives and they cause problems for our mental health, but we can overcome limiting beliefs.

How Are Limiting Beliefs Shaped?

These Include:

  • Past Trauma
  • Family Belief Systems
  • Relationships With Friends or Significant Others

It was past trauma caused by bullying and betrayal while growing up. However, I took steps to overcome that limiting belief.

Identifying The Limiting Belief

The first step I took was to identify a limiting belief that wasn’t serving me, “I can’t be my real self or I’ll be judged”. When I was growing up it was a struggled to fit in when I was in school.

The long-term effects of bullying include experiencing a wide range of emotions. These include feeling angry, bitterness, vulnerable, helplessness, frustrated, lonely and being isolated from your peers. The longer you’re bullied the odds of being depressed and anxious increases. Also, you develop self-esteem issues and can lead to social anxiety.

I wrote a post about how to overcome social anxiety. If you like to view it please click on the button below. This post describes social anxiety in more detail and on a deeper level.

Challenge The Limited Belief

The next step was to challenge my limiting belief. I started to become aware that it was not factual, I just believed it was factual. For example I believed that a friendship would fall apart just like when I was in school.

I examined the so-called facts and found that I blew them out of proportion and shaped them to form a false narrative.

When this happened I started to overcome social anxiety by questioning that false narrative.

Replace The Limiting Belief

The next step is to replace your old limiting belief with a new one. I’m using my own experience as an example. I identified and challenged my belief, “I can’t be my self or I’ll be judged”, and replaced it with, “It isn’t my job to please other people”. By doing this you’ll feel like a different person, however it’s important to strengthen your new belief.

How To Strengthen Your New Empowering Belief?

Our beliefs shape our identities and our behaviors. Also, our habits as well.

When you’re transitioning into your new belief you may feel fear and resistance. This may trigger an automatic urge to do an old habit. For example, if the transition is difficult you may find yourself engaging in negative self-talk such as “This is impossible” or “What’s the point” and then give up.

It’s interesting to note that giving up is not a habit. However, you may not be aware that you’re giving up because of habits such as fear of failure, underestimating yourself or others, procrastination or laziness.

When you become aware of these habits it’s important to identify them, challenge them and replace them. For example if you’re underestimating yourself it’s best to look into why you see yourself in that way. Then take action toward changing this habit by assessing your strengths, weaknesses and talents that make you more aware of your abilities or skill up your abilities.

Conclusion

It’s important to identify, challenge and replace a limiting belief. Also, change the bad habits that get in the way of your new empowering belief.

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Sources: 

https://personalexcellence.co/blog/limiting-beliefs/

https://www.verywellfamily.com/bullying-impact-4157338

https://www.fastcompany.com/3058647/5-habits-to-get-over-self-limiting-beliefs

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The Benefits of Getting Outside Your Comfort Zone.

In this blog I’ll be covering an interesting topic about getting outside your comfort zone.

I was experiencing a life full of chaos due to financial, mental and physical health problems for 5 years. These problems went hand-in-hand with anxiety. When my life was becoming less chaotic and pulled myself together, I decided that I wanted to step outside of my comfort zone. Despite feeling anxious it is a great way to test my limits and keep growing as a person.

Traveling is a means to step outside your comfort zone and to prove to your anxiousness that you’re capable.

What does it mean to step outside of your comfort zone?

It means doing things that you don’t feel comfortable with doing including traveling to unfamiliar places. 

Why is this important?

Stepping outside your comfort zone causes you to grow as a person. People are meant to keep experiencing new things and to progress. Also, it’s an opportunity to make yourself come alive.

Where did I go to get outside of my comfort zone?

In 2014 when I went to Nova Scotia, Canada it was a trip that allowed me to push myself into the unknown. Going by train from Boston to Portland, ME then on a cruise ship to Yarmouth, NS was something I’ve never done before. 

In 2016 and 2018 Costa Rica was the destination of choice. 

October 2018 was my trip to Italy.

My latest adventure outside of my comfort zone was a trip to Ireland.

What do you need?

A source of anxiety for a lot of travelers are the what if questions about your passport. What if you lose it? An important safety tip is to make at least two photocopies of your frontpage and keep them with you in case you lose your passport or you need to have that information with you but want to keep your passport in your room safe.

Here are things that are needed before you can start your adventure.

Get a passport: A passport is needed for entry into any country. It’s important to start the application process at least several months before your flight date. This can be done by going through an authorized passport agency such as certain branches of the United States Postal Service (USPS) and can take up to six weeks to receive it in the mail.

Universal Voltage and Plug adapter: In the United States and Canada electric voltage from our outlets is 120 volts, the standard frequency is 60 hertz and the power plugs and sockets are Types A and B.

However, when you are traveling to Ireland the power plugs and sockets are type G (also used in the United Kingdom, Malta, Malaysia and Singapore), standard voltage is 230 volts and the standard frequency is 50 hertz.

Universal adapters are available at stores like Best Buy or sometimes hotels can provide you with one free of charge.

I have sleep apnea and I’m required to have a CPAP machine. The universal adapter can convert the voltage to what is needed, however CPAP machines are connected to a/c adapters.

Be able to communicate with home: The first thing I do when I reach my intended destination is to either call or send a text message home. There are plenty of places to access free wifi such as airports, public places or your hotel room so you can access the internet and communicate with loved ones via facebook.

However it is important to check your cell phone plan; some can be activated abroad but others can not. 

One option is to purchase and carry around a phone card if you need to make a call, but not everyone would be comfortable with doing that.

 Another option is to look into the SIM card capabilities of your phone. 

What is a SIM card?

A SIM card or a Subscriber Identity Module card is an electronic device that’s used to identify and authenticate subscribers on cell phones.

Research the place you want to visit: When you’re preparing for you out of comfort zone adventure it’s important to research the place you want to visit. This should go hand-in-hand with planning your itinerary.

It’s important to do research on:

How much will it cost?

What currency is used?

What language is spoken?

What kind of food is eaten?

Is it safe to go there?

What are the best attractions?

My trip to Ireland

I arrived in Dublin at 620am on Monday after leaving Boston at 930pm the previous night.

After getting off the plane I arrived in customs. It’s necessary to have you passport and itinerary information ready.

Before your passport is stamped the officer will ask you questions.

  • What is the purpose of your visit?
  • How long are you staying for?
  • What hotel are you staying at?
  • What are you planning to see?

I admit that it can be stressful going through customs for the first time. 

One thing that makes me stressed after going through customs is claiming my luggage. My anxiety is triggered by what if..questions?! What if they sent it to another city? What if they lost it? This question constantly running through my mind once triggered a panic attack. 

Luckily my luggage was claimed.

Who wants to know an interesting fact about Ireland? They drive on the left side of the road and your steering wheel is on the right side of your vehicle. When I was taking a cab to my hotel this was an interesting thing to see. 

After reaching the hotel I was going to be staying at the first thing I did was set up my CPAP machine and used a universal adapter to plug it into a type G receptacle. Then took a nap for an hour.

An adventure begins

After a brisk 20 minute walk to the center of Dublin I arrived at Trinity College. A beautiful campus that is home to the Book of Kells and an amazing library called the long room.

What is the Book of Kells?

The Book of Kells is an illuminated manuscript Gospel book in Latin. It contains the four Gospels of the New Testament along with prefatory texts and tables. The date and place this book was written is still up for debate because the monks that wrote it were dispersed due to Viking Raids. I found it inspirational that despite the constant existential threats of their time the monks had the determination to finish this book. 

At any time something could’ve happened to these monks but they weren’t crippled by fear and anxiety. 

Northern Ireland

An amazing day spent in Northern Ireland started with a walk on the famous Carrick-a-Rede Rope Bridge near the town of Ballintoy in County Antrim. It links the mainland with the tiny island of Carrickarede and has a height of 98 feet (30 meters). 

It was a thrilling experience walking on this bridge as the wind rocked me back and forth. If you’re anxious because of heights this a great way to escape from your comfort zone if it’s safe to do so.

Another experience in County Antrim was Giant’s Causeway. It is an area of 40,000 interlocking basalt columns that are the result of an ancient volcanic fissure eruption. 

Along with a last minute hike that I went on while visiting the site there was another fun part of this experience. According to Gaelic mythology Giant’s Causeway was built by a giant. An Irish giant named Finn MacCool accepts a challenge from the Scottish giant Brenandonner. Finn MacCool starts building the causeway across the North Channel so the two giants meet. Across the sea there are identical basalt columns at Fingal’s Cave on the Scottish Isle of Staffa.

Cliffs of Moher

The Cliffs of Moher are sea cliffs located at the southwest edge of the Burren region in County Claire, Ireland. Despite a three hour drive from Dublin it was worth the trip. Walking along the cliffs taking pictures while trying to keep your balance while the wind tries to blow you down onto the ground.

County Wicklow

My favorite part of my adventure was the day trip to County Wicklow. 

About 10 miles south of Dublin is County Wicklow, which consists of the Wicklow Mountains. This beautiful region was where my paternal grandmother’s family Saunders was from.

While exploring the ruins of an ancient monastery called Baltinglass Abbey I felt drawn to a specific spot in the cemetery surrounding it and the headstone said “Robert Saunders”. It’s possible that I met one of my ancestors.

The itenarary for the day included a trip to a farm and my group and I received a tour. I’ve had a life long interest in agriculture so this was up my alley and as an added bonus this farm produced industrial hemp. 

I’ve written about CBD oil in previous blogs and it was an awesome experience visiting a farm that grew hemp.

Glendalough is a place that consists of the ruins of a monastic city built by Saint Kevin and it was situated in Wicklow National Park. The walk along the beautiful trails that became a boardwalk over a lake made for some excellent pictures and this place will put you into a meditative state after being there for a while.

Conclusion

It’s important to pull yourself together and get your anxiety under control. Being able to get outside your comfort zone has it’s benefits. Great pictures, great experiences and great memories. Travel is a great way to show your anxiety who’s boss.

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Limiting Beliefs In A Nutshell

In my previous post the topic was about improving your unhealthy self-perception. However, I’d like to discuss something that’s a reflection of how you see yourself. I’m referring to limiting beliefs.

When you perceive or see yourself in a healthy way you’re more aware of who you are as a person. For example you’re more aware of your strengths, weaknesses, talents and potential and you take responsibilities for your thoughts and actions.

However, when you see yourself in an unhealthy way you’re more likely to be unsure of yourself and your abilities. This can manifest itself as a toxic belief system that inhibits your growth as a person.

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What Are Limiting Beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are assumptions or perceptions about ourselves and the world around us that constrain us in some way.

We’re unaware that we end up impoverishing our lives when we follow these beliefs and this is due to a number of negative effects. They can keep us from making good decisions, taking advantage of new opportunities or reaching our full potential. 

Limiting beliefs leave you stuck in a negative state of mind. They prevent you from living the life you want. However, have you wondered where limiting beliefs come from?

Where Do Limiting Beliefs Come From?

Different things that happen in our lives shape our limiting beliefs. 

Things that shape limiting beliefs include the following: 

Past Trauma: Something traumatic that happens to you as a child can remain stuck in your psyche. When this happens it’s like a record that skips and stops you in the same place over and over.

Your Family’s Belief System: The belief system of your family plays a role in how you view and interact with the world. For example if you’re from a family that values playing it safe in life you might be convinced that you’re not good enough to any other path.

Expectations From Family: You’re raised with certain expectations. For example you’re expected to go to college and get a 9 to 5 after graduation because it’s a safe option. However, you’re more interested in starting your own business, but underlying guilt about meeting expectations and fear of judgement from family can leave you feeling stuck.

Relationships With Friends and Significant Others: Limiting beliefs can impact how you view the world. For example if you were bullied as a child in school, betrayed by a friend or were cheated on by a significant other it causes you to see all people as untrustworthy.

Types Of Limiting Beliefs

According to Inc.com there are 3 types of limiting beliefs. 

Unhealthy Beliefs About Yourself:

When you conclude that you’re a failure that won’t amount to anything in life, this belief will prevent you from being your best self.

Unhealthy Beliefs About Others:

There are limiting beliefs about everyone being out to get you, everyone is untrustworthy or manipulative it can be impossible to develop relationships.

Unhealthy Beliefs About The World:

If you believe that you can’t succeed, because the world is unfair and scary, then it will take a toll on you and make you feel stuck.

In my next post I’ll be offering tips for changing your limiting beliefs and this will include the story of my personal transformation after changing mine.

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Sources:

http://changingminds.org/explanations/belief/limiting_beliefs.htm

https://business.tutsplus.com/tutorials/what-are-self-limiting-beliefs–cms-31607

https://www.lifehack.org/858652/limiting-beliefs

https://www.inc.com/amy-morin/3-types-of-unhealthy-beliefs-that-will-drain-your-mental-strength-make-you-less-effective.html

https://tomillama.com/blog/limiting-beliefs

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Feeling Stuck In Life (Part.2): Tips For Overcoming Stuckness

In my previous post I was discussing what it meant to feel stuck in life and why you feel stock. In today’s post I’ll be offering practical tips for overcoming the feeling of stuckness.

Why Do Some People Stay Stuck?

Many people end up staying stuck and unhappy for many reasons.

Reasons may include liking or depending on the financial stability that their job provides, they may fear change or fear failure and they may not have the education or resources to make a change.

However, there are some simple and realistic ways of getting unstuck.

Tips For Becoming Unstuck

Letting Go Of The Past: Holding on to the past, whether it’s unresolved baggage from a bad relationship, a past job or from a bad financial decision can cause us to sabotage ourselves when we start asking ourselves “What If” questions. If we look back at these memories and learn from them then let them go we can set ourselves free from baggage.

Change Your Perspective:  After letting go of the past it helps to take a break from your current situation whether you like to hike, go fishing or meditate to clear your mind in order to gain a new perspective about your life. You’ll notice that you no longer feel stuck when you learn how to perceive your life in a different way.

Take Baby Steps: Remember that small baby steps can become big things. For example, you can start reflecting on your life and start working toward what you truly want, instead of what other people want.

Explore Your Purpose: Your life purpose is what makes you feel alive. I’m referring to the you’re passionate about including a job that you enjoy doing, helping others reach their full potential or growing as a human.

Consider Hiring A Life Coach: The benefits of hiring a life coach include getting help with providing clarity, commitment and visioning your success, along with encouraging self-reflection and providing strategies and goals to suit your needs.

Learn How To Believe In Yourself Again: We learn how to believe in ourselves as we develop the courage to face inevitable obstacles, rather than getting discouraged and feeling defeated when an obstacle knocks us down.

Practice Being Hopeful: We might feel stuck, because of feelings of protective pessimism brought on by having a lot of disappointments in your life. However, when you need to change and overcome this negative way of thinking it helps to practice something that inspires hope. These include meditation, prayer or reading inspirational books.

Seek Professional Help: Some people might feel stuck because of an underlying mental health problem such as depression. I know from experience that episodes of depression can cause a change in how you perceive your life. If this is a problem that persists see a medical professional.

Conclusion 

The topic of today’s post came up a lot in conversations among my peers. Some of them are deeply indebted because of student loans, some are struggling to find affordable housing to buy or rent and others feel like they’re stuck because of lack of job satisfaction. 

There have been plenty of times in my life in which I felt stuck. I felt stuck after graduating college, because of underemployment and unsure about whether my chosen field was a good fit. I ended up going back to night school to study subjects such as college physics, computer programming and biology. Taking this small step eventually led to a better job. Its possible to not feel stuck anymore when you have the willingness to take action regardless of your situation.

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Feeling Stuck in Life (Part. 1): What Are The Signs?

In this post I’ll be exploring what it means to feel stuck in life. It’s not always the most pleasant feeling and it can leave us anxious and depressed, so it would be interesting to discuss it on a deeper level.

What Does It Mean To Feel Stuck in Life?

Feeling stuck in life or feeling like we’re hitting the wall is a feeling we will all experience a one time or another. Whether you’re a recent college graduate who is entering the workforce, someone who has grown unhappy in their chosen profession or if you’re unhappy in your personal life it can be a painful emotion. 

Feeling stuck in life or “stuckness” can make us feel like we’re drowning in mud when it seems like we can’t make progress in our lives.

Why Do We Feel Stuck in Life? 

We get stuck when we feel like our lives should be something different than it is. It occurs when it’s time to make a change when something isn’t working for you anymore. 

Signs That You’re Feeling Stuck in Life

When we’re feeling stuck in life there are many signs that include:

It’s Hard To Get Excited About Anything: Stuckness can cause a person to become depressed and cause you to perceive the world in a less upbeat way. When upbeat music is played on the radio it doesn’t excite you, you start seeing the world in black and white rather than in vivid colors and you become an overall boring person to be around.

You Keep Reminiscing About The Past: We all get nostalgic about past memories that bring us comfort and joy from time to time. However, stuckness can cause you to use past memories to substitute present experiences that you perceive as unpleasant. 

You’re Always Daydreaming About A Different Life: Stuckness can cause you to daydream about being somewhere else rather than where you are now. This can be a problem, because daydreaming too much can become a form of self-sabotage that disrupts your long-term goals toward improving your life.

Feeling That Your Life Has No Purpose: It’s a myth that money is the only motivator. Along with making money it’s important to be in a line of work that gives you a sense of purpose, whether it makes you happy or it’s rewarding.

Staying Put, Because It Feels “Safe”: Some people feel stuck, because they feel like there are no other alternatives. They feel that they have to stay somewhere despite being unhappy, because it’s the “safe” thing to do.

Feeling Unwell On A Regular Basis: Due to the stress and anxiety of feeling stuck in an unhappy situation you’ll find yourself feeling unwell on a regular basis. For example, if you have a job that stresses you out it may cause stomach issues.

Neglecting Your Health and Well-Being: Feeling stuck in life is a downward spiral that affects many aspects of your life. Chronic stress and anxiety can lead to depression and that can cause you to neglect your health and well-being, whether you stop exercising, eating a poor diet or neglecting your love life.

In part 2 I’ll be offering tips on how to not feel stuck anymore.

Have You Ever Felt Stuck In Life?

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Sources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intimacy-path-toward-spirituality/201610/if-you-re-feeling-stuck-may-be-why

https://medium.com/the-mission/feeling-stuck-in-life-this-is-how-to-take-powerful-action-to-live-a-rewarding-life-101703ff6865

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Turning Your Story Into A Blog (Part. 2): Tips For New Bloggers

In this post I’ll be offering tips for anyone who wants to start blogging.

Why Do People Blog?

When I was starting the blog I was asking myself this question. Why Do People Blog?

There are many reasons why people blog including:

Blogging About Their Passion: If you feel strongly about an issue or topic and you want to bring attention to it, then it’s a good idea to start a blog and attract an audience you can reach out to.

Sharing Their Expertise: If you’re a blogger with the heart of a teacher and you have some knowledge of a subject, you may blog in order to share that know-how with your audience.

Share Their Experiences: Some bloggers like to post about the progress they’ve made while learning something new. Whether, you’re learning how to bake a cake or learning how to manage a chronic health condition.

Express Themselves: A simple reason why some people blog is to express themselves. Some use blogging as a way to practice their writing with an actual audience as a way to try different writing styles and formats, and to express themselves creatively. However, there are others that use their blogs as a way to entertain an audience, whether they’re writing humorous posts or writing about life in general.

Process Their Thoughts: Blogging, like journaling helps us organize our thoughts that are usually a jumbled up mess until we either write them down or type them out.

To Write A Book: There are a lot of authors that create and share their content in shorter form blog posts. Overtime, they’ll compile and edit these into a book manuscript.

Blogging To Find Others: Blogging is an opportunity to connect with people who are interested in the same thing. Overtime you can build a community made up of your ideal reader.

Make Money: There are some bloggers that make money blogging. It’s not necessarily a form of passive income or a get-rich-quick method. However, if you put the time and the effort into your blog you can make a side income or a full-time living from it.

Getting Started

Here is a link you should click on when you want to start your blog:

https://firstsiteguide.com/start-blog/

When I first started blogging I chose a topic that was a personal interest of mine, which was CBD oil. Due to anxiety and stress brought on by bipolar disorder and sleep apnea I was having sleep issues, so I used CBD oil as a sleep aid. 

This first post gave me some idea of what my niche was going to be. A niche is a specific group of people or a specific market you want to reach with your blog. My niche has different segments including individuals that suffer from anxiety and other mental health issues, those who want to improve themselves and those who advocate for holistic health.

I started to post more frequently and attracted a bigger audience overtime.

Tips For New Bloggers

Since starting my there have been a lot of ups and downs and there were things that I learned by accident or through trial and error. 

Here are some tips for new bloggers:

Getting Ideas From Your Audience: I get emails all the time from subscribers who either have questions for me or a lot of them have ideas for future blog posts.

Understand Your Audience: As you get to know your audience better you start having a better idea of what blog content will resonate with them. I like to post engaging quotes on facebook and Instagram as a way to test blog ideas. If my audience responds well to it, then its a great topic to write about.

 Build a Relationship With Your Audience: As a blogger you’ll get obsessed with finding new readers. However, you might end up ignoring or neglecting the readers you already have, so it’s important to spend time each day engaging with your audience and building relationships.

Build Your Email List: Since the blog was launched I started building an email list. Even if you’re not selling products, having an email list allows you to promote your new content to your audience directly. Also, your email list becomes your community and caring for them by writing for them and delivering value to them should be your number one goal.

Post Regularly: It’s important to note that it’s easier to lose blog traffic than it is to build it up. Bloggers that post on a regular basis (more than once a week) added subscribers over twice as fast as those bloggers that added content once a month. 

Keep It Short: When I started blogging I posted blog posts that were 3 pages or more. I learned that when a post runs too long my audience may lose interest and you should be aware that there are thousands of other posts competing for their attention. It’s important that your posts are short (minimum of 300 words) and straight to the point.

Give It Time: Blogging is the wrong path if you’re looking for a quick path to wealth and recognition. Plan to invest in blogging for a long time before you see a return. If you can stick it out for years without results and you have a willingness to learn and make improvements to your blog along the way you can achieve something awesome.

Have You Ever Considered Writing a Blog?

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Turning Your Story Into a Blog(Part.1): Writing Away Anxiety

I received a message from a follower suggesting that I write a post about my blogging career.

My Story

A decade ago my life was going downhill really fast. I was undergoing a lot of financial hardship brought on by the 2008 stock market crash which resulted in job loss. 

The stress and anxiety from trying to pull my life out of a tailspin got to a point where I had a nervous breakdown when I could no longer cope in a healthy way. It began when I started coping in reckless ways such as blacking out at a party after drinking 15 beers and seven shots of whiskey. From that moment on I actually lost the ability to function in everyday life and it was made worse by being out of work. 

After a couple of years I did find full time work and things were starting to look up and I was finally diagnosed with bipolar disorder. 

Living with bipolar disorder/BPD is difficult, along with therapy and medication I overtime learned how to self-manage my symptoms, not let this condition define me and live a healthy and fulfilling life. Along with diet and exercise I learned different coping strategies including meditation, practicing good sleep hygiene and journaling.

I’ve come a long way since that infamous party. I’m doing much better, although I still have bad days, but as long as I take care of myself I’ll be ok.

My Blog Started Out As Journaling

My blog started out as journaling. For those who suffer from any kind of mental health problem whether it’s stress, depression or anxiety journaling is a great outlet for writing down my thoughts and feelings to understand them more clearly. Also, journaling can help you gain control of your emotions and improve your mental health.

Blogging just like journaling helps with anxiety for one big reason, it helps organize my thoughts better. Also, blogging helps me process what I’m feeling just like journaling and it’s intended to help other people as well.

I started blogging in early 2019 partly as a New Years Resolution. It started as a holistic health blog that discussed topics pertaining to CBD oil, organic food and probiotics, and their role in treating anxiety. The blog was originally called “Mike’s Holistics”.

Over time the blog evolved as I started to discuss different topics when I was finding my niche.

If you don’t know what a niche is, it’s a place, job or use for which a person is best fitted, for example I’m part of the health and wellness niche, specifically anxiety and mental health.

I ended up changing the name of the blog to “Mike’s Blog”, however as it continued to evolve it became “The Mindful Mastermind”.

In part. 2 I’ll be offering tips for anyone interested in blogging.

What Do You Do That’s Therapeutic?

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