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Coping Through Cooking

Have you ever had a bipolar disorder coping strategy that became a passion? 

Did this passion help you reduce your symptoms and at the same time fill the room with delicious smells?!

Coping Through Mindfulness

I’ve had bipolar disorder my whole life. Along with medication and therapy, there are other ways to manage symptoms including coping strategies.

Coping strategies include mindfulness, which means living in the moment and awakening to experience. 

Mindfulness includes forms of meditation such as breath awareness and kundalini yoga.

Did you know that cooking is a basic and overlooked form of meditation.

Cooking In The Moment

Cooking is a simple daily task that can help you find peace and enjoyment in the present moment.

An example is an easy and simple recipe such as candied sweet potatoes. When you’re starting it on the top of your stove by adding butter to your pan you’ll notice your mind is set on that simple task. 

Then you start adding brown sugar, cinnamon and nutmeg to the butter. When this happens there’s a delicious smell that not only makes you hungry but also triggers feelings of warm nostalgia, along with activating areas of your brain linked to emotion and memory. You’ll find that this calms an anxious mind.

Benefits Of Cooking?

It’s hard to get motivated when your in a depressed mood because of bipolar disorder.

Due to depression weighing you down; you might be in the mood to overeat, but you might have a hard time getting up and doing anything else. 

When you’re feeling depressed there are many benefits to cooking for yourself.

What Are Some Of Cooking’s Benefits?

Benefits Include:

  • Cooking Is Therapeutic: Cooking is an effective therapy, because it encourages creativity. It also reduces anxiety and depression.
  • Healthier Food Options: People who cook for themselves tend to have better overall health.
  • Focus On What You’re Eating: When you’re cooking for yourself you’re not surrounded by other distractions. You can enjoy your food more and exercise better control over what you eat.
  • Cooking Forces You To Get It Together: Preparing your own food takes some planning. It encourages you to be organized and focused, which helps with bipolar symptoms.
  • It Connects You With Others: Cooking for someone else is a way to express love. Whether it’s for your significant other, kids, roommates, family or friends you’re all working together to make something amazing.

How Do You Cope With Your Bipolar Symptoms?

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Sources:

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320392

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/brain-babble/201501/smells-ring-bells-how-smell-triggers-memories-and-emotions

https://lifehacker.com/when-you-eat-focus-on-just-eating-1548927900

https://www.headspace.com/mindfulness/mindful-cooking

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B Vitamins For A Better Mind!

What are B Vitamins?

B vitamins refer to a class of water-soluble vitamins that are vital for maintaining good health and well being. 

They are building blocks for a healthy body that have a direct impact on your energy levels, cell metabolism and also brain health.

B Vitamins Include:

  • B1 (Thiamine): Helps your body generate energy from carbohydrates. The main role of carbohydrates is to provide energy for your body, especially your brain and nervous system.
  • B2 (Riboflavin): Helps your body breakdown carbohydrates, protein and fats to produce energy.
  • B3 (Niacin): A B vitamin made and used by your body to turn food into energy. It helps keep your nervous system, digestive system and your skin healthy.
  • B5 (Pantothenic Acid): Very important for making blood cells and helps convert your food into energy. 
  • B6 (Pyridone): Helps your body make energy from food and form red blood cells that help deliver oxygen throughout your body. B6 also regulates the hormones dopamine and serotonin.
  • B7 (Biotin): Your body needs Biotin to convert certain nutrients into energy. It’s also important for your hair, skin and nails.
  • B9 (Folate): Helps form your DNA, which is important for every cell (Including Brain Cells) in your body.
  • B12 (Cobalamin): Helps your body make energy from food just like B6. It keeps your body’s nerve and red blood cells healthy, and helps make DNA for all cells.

B vitamins play a vital role in producing brain chemicals that affect your mood and other brain functions. 

Low levels of B vitamins such as Folate, B12 and B6 have been linked to mental health problems such as anxiety and depression, along with worsening the symptoms of mental disorders such as bipolar disorder.

Where Do You Get B Vitamins?

B Vitamins are obtained by eating nutrient-rich foods. 

These Include:

  • Avocados: Long before avocados were considered a stereotypical millennial stable they’ve been regarded as a superfood. One whole avocado is packed with B vitamins.
  • Plain Low Fat Yogurt: The amount of nutritional value varies from brand to brand, but they tend to be rich in vitamin B12 and riboflavin.
  • Salmon: This is a low mercury fish that’s high in omega 3’s. It’s also high in other nutrients including B vitamins.
  • Chicken: Chicken, along with turkey are loaded with B vitamins such as niacin and pyridoxine.
  • Eggs: One chicken egg contains 33% of the recommended daily intake of the B vitamin biotin.
  • Chickpeas: Foods such as chickpeas are a great source of B vitamins, especially B6 and folate.
  • Tofu: Along with being a valuable plant source of iron and calcium, tofu contains vitamin B1.
  • Dark Green Vegetables: Vegetables such as spinach, romaine lettuce and kale contain large amounts of folate.

However, there are people with bodies that have a hard time absorbing B vitamins or they can’t obtain B vitamins from diet alone.

There are many vegetables that could lose of their nutritional content while being cooked. Unless you eat them raw.

Some people have cut meat out of their diets which is a significant source of vitamin B12.

It’s recommended that they look into taking a multivitamin or a vitamin B complex supplement.

What Is Vitamin B Complex?

Vitamin B-Complex is a supplement that includes all eight B vitamins in one pill.

It’s been shown to improve brain health by providing optimal psychological and neurological benefits. This significantly benefits mood along with reducing stress.

Despite the added benefits of a vitamin B supplement there are health risks as the dosage goes up, so talk to your doctor first before taking it.

Bipolar Disorder And B Vitamins

Bipolar Disorder is associated with episodes of mood swings that range from depressive low moods to manic/hypomanic highs.

Symptoms include mood swings, depression, anxiety, fatigue, irritability, inability to focus and appetite fluctuations.

The exact cause is unknown but a combination of genetics, environment and altered brain structure and chemistry play a role. An often overlooked factor that plays a role is poor diet.

A poor diet deficient in nutritional content can play a role in bipolar disorder, especially low B vitamins.

Studies have shown that vitamins B1, B6 and B12, in particular play a role in decreasing bipolar symptoms. Also they improve the overall health of your brain, which leads to better management of bipolar disorder.

Please talk to your doctor before increasing the amount of B vitamins in your diet.

Do you take any supplements to improve your health?

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https://www.healthline.com/health/food-nutrition/vitamin-b-complex

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/expert-answers/vitamin-b12-and-depression/faq-20058077

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https://psychcentral.com/lib/vitamins-for-bipolar-disorder/

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Perseverance! How To Harness The Positive Of Being Stubborn

What Does It Mean To Be Stubborn?

Being stubborn refers to someone or something that’s determined to do whatever they want and refuse to do anything else.

Anyone or anything that’s stubborn can be hard to move, change or deal with. 

Consequences Of Stubbornness?

Being stubborn can be associated with negative traits such as:

  • Too Much Ego
  • Unwillingness To Be Wrong 
  • Hot Tempered
  • Self-Centered
  • Fearful Of The Unknown
  • Controlling
  • Overly Competitive and Defensive

Stubborn people can be rigidly attached to their beliefs, opinions, ideas and tastes. 

It becomes a major flaw when they don’t consider the opinion of others because they feel threatened by people who disagree with them. 

Also, they may see their stubbornness as having determination to achieve a goal, but instead it becomes a form of self sabotage. 

They’re so inflexible with working with others, not listening to others and an unwillingness to listen to their own bodies, so they end up making themselves sick both physically and mentally. Also, their personal and professional relationships are strained as well.

Can Stubbornness Be A Strength?

Despite stubborn people having a character flaw that’s often associated with negative traits, they can also have a lot of overlooked positive traits as well.

Some Positive Traits Include:

  • Knowing What They Want: Stubborn people know what they want. They know when to take action.
  • Being More Decisive: They know what they want and they go for it. However, they won’t rush to make a decision without exploring the pros and cons of it first. By doing that it’s easier to make an informed decision.
  • Having Clear Boundaries: Stubborn people have an unwillingness to compromise themselves if it involves putting them in uncomfortable situations. They know what they value and will pursue the things that are most important to them.
  • Being Passionate: Whether it’s something they believe in or someone they care about, people who are stubborn will fight to the end for what they’re passionate about. They have faith that their ideas are valid and their voices are worth hearing.
  • Prefer Quality Over Quantity: Some people prefer quality over quantity and they’ll change or move when the opportunity is a good one. For example they might be selective about who enters their social circle.

How To Turn Stubbornness into Perseverance?

Stubbornness is neither good nor bad. However when people are determined it can be reframed into perseverance.

Perseverance is the ability to keep doing something despite the odds. People who persevere are determined to accomplish something despite how hard it is or how long it takes to reach their goal.

People who persevere continue to work for change despite failures, while stubborn people refuse to change or recognize failures. 

It’s great when people know what they want, are decisive, have clear boundaries and have a passion. However, these qualities won’t allow them to persevere and accomplish their goals unless they overcome the negative aspects of stubborness. 

Here are some tips to turn stubbornness into perseverance:

  • Seeing Compromise As a Strength: Being able to compromise is a strength. When people are able to see the big picture and don’t always have a need to be “right” they’ll be able to persevere toward what they want.
  • Remind Yourself That You’re Not Always Right: It’s important for people to recognize that there are other points of view to consider other than your own. Collaboration and outside feedback from others can help you a lot in reaching your goals.
  • Build Rapport With Other People: Being able to improve interpersonal relationships helps. When people build rapport with others that have different viewpoints they might learn something from them, including a better way of achieving a goal or debunk a stubborn belief they may have held.

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  • Keep An Open Mind: This is important, because people need to keep their minds open so they can absorb ideas that work for them. If they stay closed minded then they may be missing out on an opportunity to persevere.

What Helps You Persevere?

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Sources:

https://www.elitedaily.com/life/culture/stubbornness-asset-downfall/767984

https://jobecker.co.uk/different-perspectives/being-stubborn

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/character-strengths-and-life-skills/what-is-perseverance

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How To Improve Brain Fog?

What is Brain Fog?

The term “brain fog” is not a medical condition. It is used to describe symptoms that can affect your ability to think. 

When you’re feeling anxious, confused, disorganized, finding it hard to focus. Also, if you’re having a hard time putting your thoughts into words it can be described as brain fog.

What Causes Brain Fog?

Causes Include:

  • Low Iron Levels: Low Iron or Anemia occurs when the number of healthy red blood cells in your body is reduced. This can lead to low energy along with brain fog.
  • Mental Health Issues: Brain fog can be caused by mental health issues. These include conditions such as bipolar disorder, ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), major depression and different anxiety disorders. 
  • Overuse Of Electronics: Brain fog happens when you spend too much time on your smart phone or tablet.
  • Certain Medications: There are many medications that cause brain fog, including those taken for chemotherapy, anti-anxiety (effexor) and sleep. Talk to your doctor if you suspect your medication is making you feel foggy.
  • Poor Diet: A nutritionally inadequate diet can not only affect your physical health, but also brain fog. A poor diet consisting of foods that have high fructose corn syrup can make you feel foggy, due to spikes in blood sugar.
  • Lack Of Exercise: It’s interesting to note that when our bodies are inactive for too long our brains become inactive as well.
  • Lack Of Sleep: Sleep deprivation can disrupt your brain cell’s ability to communicate with each other. This leads to lapses in memory and visual perception.
  • Sleep Apnea: Sleep apnea occurs when an obstruction in your airway causes your breathing to frequently stop and start while you sleep. Over time it not only causes brain fog, it also causes brain damage from lack of oxygen.
  • Diabetes: Sugar is your brain’s main source of energy. If you have diabetes your blood sugar is out of whack and this causes brain fog.

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What Are The Consequences Of Brain Fog?

Consequences of Brain Fog Include:

  • Poor Memory: Memory issues caused by brain fog may be short or long term. 
  • Trouble Concentrating: When you can’t concentrate because of brain fog, you may feel impulsive, have intrusive thoughts, overreact or be inattentive.
  • Difficulty Carrying Out Tasks: Having brain fog causes you to have difficulties with starting and finishing tasks. These can include tasks that need to be complete within a specific timeframe.
  • Unable To Communicate Effectively: It’s interesting to note that not being able to think clearly can cause you to not only stumble over your words, but also affect how you build rapport with other people.
  • Worsening Mental Health: Chronic stress and anxiety can lead to an increased risk of brain damage, which can cause dementia, chronic depression and worsening anxiety.  

How To Improve Brain Fog?

It’s important to identify what’s causing your brain fog.

Once the cause is identified, the next step is to take action to improve it.

Here Are Some Tips To Improve Brain Fog:

  • Get More Sleep: When you improve the quality of sleep you’ll notice that your mind is clearer. For example if you have sleep apnea, it’s important to use a CPAP machine to not only assure that you get good sleep, but also increase oxygen to the brain.
  • Eat Healthier Foods: When you’re fighting brain fog it’s important to put food into consideration. For example foods such as dark green vegetables, avocados, olive oil and omega-3 rich foods like salmon are recommended for brain health. Also, along with dark green vegetables such as spinach it’s important to consider raisins, cashews, beans and red meats as sources of iron.
  • Exercise: When you get moving and exercise it promotes the growth of neural connections in the brain.
  • Spend Time In Nature: Exercise is a great way to promote brain health. However you’ll have the added benefit of increased oxygen from nature when you exercise outside.
  • Take Supplements: If you’re not able to get omega 3s from salmon, then you might want to consider a supplement.
  • Make Time For Self-Care: It’s important to take a time out once in a while for self-care. For example you can spend this time pursuing a hobby such as gardening which not only relaxes you, but allows you to produce your own dark green leafy vegetables.
  • Reduce Stress: Taking time out to focus on stress relief helps a lot. It helps to focus on the present moment by meditating and breathing deep.
  • Reduce Smart Phone Usage: The blue light emitted from your smart can keep you up at night. It’s important to shut it off a least an hour before bed.

How Do You Handle Brain Fog?

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https://www.webmd.com/brain/ss/slideshow-brain-fog#:~:text=%E2%80%9CBrain%20fog%E2%80%9D%20isn’t,put%20your%20thoughts%20into%20words.

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Tips For Building Rapport

Rapport is a very important but underrated skill to have. I’ll be discussing tips on how to build rapport.

What is Rapport?

There is a word that you may have heard called “rapport”, but you may not be aware of what it means.

Rapport is a meaningful connection or relationship with someone else. 

It’s also considered a state of harmonious understanding with an individual or group, examples include showing a real interest in someone else’s hobby or empathizing with someone’s situation and feeling “in sync” with them.

Building rapport is very important whether it’s with a client or more importantly with your personal relationships.

However, a lack of rapport can lead to not only a lack of communication, but also a lack of trust.

Why Is Rapport Important?

It’s important to build rapport with someone, but do you know why it’s important? 

Important Reasons Include:

  • Building Trust: It’s interesting to note that rapport can be built at the same time as trust. Rapport focuses on establishing a bond or connection with someone, which helps you to establish a reputation for reliability, consistency and keeping your promises that builds trust.
  • Improved Mental Health: When rapport is being built between a therapist and yourself to treat a mental disorder it can lead to a more successful outcome. 
  • Forming Deeper Relationships: Rapport forms the basis of  deep and meaningful relationships between people. It’s the sense of connection you feel when you like and trust someone, and understand their point of view.
  • It’s An Important Life Skill: Rapport is an often overlooked essential skill that helps you build relationships faster and improve communication more rapidly. This is important for all aspects of your life whether you’re connected on a more intimate level or professional level.


How To Build Rapport?

Here are some tips for building rapport with other people.

Tips Include:

  • Overcoming Communication Barriers: Strong communication skills are key to building rapport. However there are barriers in place that make building rapport difficult, so it’s important to learn how to overcome them.

Examples Of Communication Barriers Include:

Cultural Differences and Language

Inability To Listen To Others

Information Overload and Lack of Focus

Disorganized Thinking

Depression and Anxiety:

Lack of Empathy

Lack of Trust

Poor Social Skills

  • Improve Your Appearance: One of the fastest ways to build rapport is to make a great first impression. This includes taking pride in your appearance.
  • Find Common Ground: It’s essential to build rapport by asking someone open-ended questions about themselves. You’ll find common ground and build a deeper connection.
  • Be Your Authentic Self: When you’re being authentic, you’re being real. This is important for building rapport, because it helps to establish trust between you and other people.
  • Learn How To Be Empathetic: Learn how to see someone else’s point of view in order to find common ground. This is important when you’re trying to find common ground with them.
  • Mirror and Match Mannerisms and Speech: When we’re building rapport with other people, we may or may not be aware that we’re adopting their temperament, mannerisms, speech patterns and even their body language.

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How Do You Build Rapport?

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Sources:

https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/rapport.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/202001/how-therapy-works-the-role-real-rapport

https://www.smartcompany.com.au/people-human-resources/developing-rapport-empathy-workplace/

https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/building-rapport.htm

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Rediscovering Self Confidence After A Setback

Life is strange! 

Sometimes you win and other times you lose. 

When life is going well you feel good about yourself.

Life can also throw you a curveball that can set you back. Most setbacks are minor and don’t throw your life off track, examples include being turned down for a promotion, being rejected by a love interest or if you have a cold.

However there are major setbacks that can happen that interrupt your progress, can keep you from finding success and make you feel like you’re stuck.

What Are Some Examples Of Major Setbacks?

  • Job Loss: There’s nothing more stressful than a job loss. It becomes a setback when you have to leave the workforce and retrain due to obsolete job skills.
  • Financial Setbacks: It’s challenging when you have a financial setback, whether you’re unable to pay your mortgage, your credit card debt or your student loans.
  • Divorce/End Of Relationship: A divorce/end of relationship is not only a financial setback, but also an emotional one.
  • Unexpected Expenses: These are expenses that you don’t see coming, but can throw your life off. For example you might be facing a medical emergency and have to go to the ER. Also, the ailment you’re going to the ER for may require emergency surgery.
  • Major Illness: Dealing with health setbacks is tough. Whether you’re dealing with a physical ailment such as diabetes or a mental health condition such as bipolar disorder.

Consequences Of Setbacks?

Life altering setbacks can make you feel stuck. You may end up feeling defeated, leave you doubting yourself and having less self-confidence.

Major Setbacks can be damaging to your self-esteem and can lead to down a downward spiral. When this happens it can make a situation worse.

How To Rebuild Your Self-Confidence?

Setbacks, whether they alter your life or not are a part of life. You’re going to face adversity sometimes, but instead of letting your baggage get the best of you it’s important to see a setback as a time to take action.

Tips For Bouncing Back:

  • Take Your Time: Overcoming a major setback doesn’t happen overnight it may take months or even years to achieve. Meanwhile take your time to work on yourself so you reemerge more resilient. This can be achieved by eating the right foods, exercising, reflecting on past mistakes.
  • Challenge Limiting Beliefs: When you’re feeling stuck you may see yourself in an unhealthy way and have unhealthy beliefs about yourself. Challenging these beliefs puts us in a more positive life state and help us overcome setbacks. Please click below to learn more about overcoming limiting beliefs.

  • Be Grateful: Gratitude is a warm feeling of thankfulness toward the world, or toward specific individuals. When you’re grateful you feel thankful for what you have.
  • Surround Yourself With The Right People: Surround yourself with people who love and support you. They encourage you to ignore negativity along with making you happy.



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https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/buildingselfesteem/2015/02/how-to-handle-setbacks

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/how-to-bounce-back-when-you-lose-it-all/

https://medium.com/@kerrisullivan/overcoming-setbacks-and-changing-the-mentality-behind-them-efcd752888f6

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Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs was the topic of my previous blog post. They’re assumptions or perceptions about ourselves and the world around us that constrain us in some way. They shape our lives and they cause problems for our mental health, but we can overcome limiting beliefs.

How Are Limiting Beliefs Shaped?

These Include:

  • Past Trauma
  • Family Belief Systems
  • Relationships With Friends or Significant Others

It was past trauma caused by bullying and betrayal while growing up. However, I took steps to overcome that limiting belief.

Identifying The Limiting Belief

The first step I took was to identify a limiting belief that wasn’t serving me, “I can’t be my real self or I’ll be judged”. When I was growing up it was a struggled to fit in when I was in school.

The long-term effects of bullying include experiencing a wide range of emotions. These include feeling angry, bitterness, vulnerable, helplessness, frustrated, lonely and being isolated from your peers. The longer you’re bullied the odds of being depressed and anxious increases. Also, you develop self-esteem issues and can lead to social anxiety.

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Challenge The Limited Belief

The next step was to challenge my limiting belief. I started to become aware that it was not factual, I just believed it was factual. For example I believed that a friendship would fall apart just like when I was in school.

I examined the so-called facts and found that I blew them out of proportion and shaped them to form a false narrative.

When this happened I started to overcome social anxiety by questioning that false narrative.

Replace The Limiting Belief

The next step is to replace your old limiting belief with a new one. I’m using my own experience as an example. I identified and challenged my belief, “I can’t be my self or I’ll be judged”, and replaced it with, “It isn’t my job to please other people”. By doing this you’ll feel like a different person, however it’s important to strengthen your new belief.

How To Strengthen Your New Empowering Belief?

Our beliefs shape our identities and our behaviors. Also, our habits as well.

When you’re transitioning into your new belief you may feel fear and resistance. This may trigger an automatic urge to do an old habit. For example, if the transition is difficult you may find yourself engaging in negative self-talk such as “This is impossible” or “What’s the point” and then give up.

It’s interesting to note that giving up is not a habit. However, you may not be aware that you’re giving up because of habits such as fear of failure, underestimating yourself or others, procrastination or laziness.

When you become aware of these habits it’s important to identify them, challenge them and replace them. For example if you’re underestimating yourself it’s best to look into why you see yourself in that way. Then take action toward changing this habit by assessing your strengths, weaknesses and talents that make you more aware of your abilities or skill up your abilities.

Conclusion

When you’re overcoming limiting beliefs it’s important to not only identify, challenge and replace the belief, but also to change bad habits that get in the way of your new empowering belief.

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Sources: 

https://personalexcellence.co/blog/limiting-beliefs/

https://www.verywellfamily.com/bullying-impact-4157338

https://www.fastcompany.com/3058647/5-habits-to-get-over-self-limiting-beliefs

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Limiting Beliefs In A Nutshell

In my previous post the topic was about improving your unhealthy self-perception. However, I’d like to discuss something that’s a reflection of how you see yourself. I’m referring to limiting beliefs.

When you perceive or see yourself in a healthy way you’re more aware of who you are as a person. For example you’re more aware of your strengths, weaknesses, talents and potential and you take responsibilities for your thoughts and actions.

However, when you see yourself in an unhealthy way you’re more likely to be unsure of yourself and your abilities. This can manifest itself as a toxic belief system that inhibits your growth as a person.

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What Are Limiting Beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are assumptions or perceptions about ourselves and the world around us that constrain us in some way.

We’re unaware that we end up impoverishing our lives when we follow these beliefs and this is due to a number of negative effects. They can keep us from making good decisions, taking advantage of new opportunities or reaching our full potential. 

Limiting beliefs leave you stuck in a negative state of mind. They prevent you from living the life you want. However, have you wondered where limiting beliefs come from?

Where Do Limiting Beliefs Come From?

Different things that happen in our lives shape our limiting beliefs. 

Things that shape limiting beliefs include the following: 

Past Trauma: Something traumatic that happens to you as a child can remain stuck in your psyche. When this happens it’s like a record that skips and stops you in the same place over and over.

Your Family’s Belief System: The belief system of your family plays a role in how you view and interact with the world. For example if you’re from a family that values playing it safe in life you might be convinced that you’re not good enough to any other path.

Expectations From Family: You’re raised with certain expectations. For example you’re expected to go to college and get a 9 to 5 after graduation because it’s a safe option. However, you’re more interested in starting your own business, but underlying guilt about meeting expectations and fear of judgement from family can leave you feeling stuck.

Relationships With Friends and Significant Others: Limiting beliefs can impact how you view the world. For example if you were bullied as a child in school, betrayed by a friend or were cheated on by a significant other it causes you to see all people as untrustworthy.

Types Of Limiting Beliefs

According to Inc.com there are 3 types of limiting beliefs. 

Unhealthy Beliefs About Yourself:

When you conclude that you’re a failure that won’t amount to anything in life, this belief will prevent you from being your best self.

Unhealthy Beliefs About Others:

There are limiting beliefs about everyone being out to get you, everyone is untrustworthy or manipulative it can be impossible to develop relationships.

Unhealthy Beliefs About The World:

If you believe that you can’t succeed, because the world is unfair and scary, then it will take a toll on you and make you feel stuck.

In my next post I’ll be offering tips for changing your limiting beliefs and this will include the story of my personal transformation after changing mine.

Have You Ever Had Limiting Beliefs?

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Sources:

http://changingminds.org/explanations/belief/limiting_beliefs.htm

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Is Mass Media Feeding Your Anxiety? Version 2.0


How Do You Feed Your Anxiety?

I mentioned in a previous post about the fear of the unknown. It occurs when we’re faced with something that’s unfamiliar or something we don’t understand. 

We become anxious about what that unknown thing means for our lives; most of us cope by exercising, listening to music or connecting with friends. However, there are some people who seek out information in an effort to resolve their anxiety; it may or may not be true and sometimes it ends up being misinformation that causes us to become more anxious toward that unknown thing they fear.

Misinformation refers to false or inaccurate information. Sometimes its due to errors or inaccuracies caused by false rumors, insults, pranks or embellishment; other times it’s due to disinformation caused by the deliberate falsehood by design and this includes malicious content such as hoaxes or propaganda.

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What are the Sources of Misinformation?

Misinformation along with disinformation and propaganda has been around as long as mass communication; which began with the development of the printing press at the end of the 14th century. 

In today’s world we are constantly bombarded with mass media including the mainstream media and social media.

The mainstream media consists of news organizations and their websites. They are always competing with each other for ratings or views and they’ve always embellished news stories.

To embellish something is to add something more interesting or entertaining to add extra details to a news story, especially the ones that are not true.

Due to the rise of internet news organizations along with social media mainstream media news organizations have seen a decline in ratings among the coveted 18 to 49 year old age demographic. Not only news media, but television viewership in general. Declining viewership had meant declining quality in the form of embellishment.

Social media is emerging as the main source of news online; along with other digital technologies. Platforms such as Facebook, Twitter and YouTube have allowed journalists to instantly report just by using their smartphones.

Over 77 million Americans have a social media profile. Being on social media allows you to easily connect with a large audience. It’s an effortless way to connect with like minded people regardless of location with just a single click.

Observers often lack the skills and motivation to interview participants to get the full unvarnished story. This can lead to the reporting of news that’s often distorted by the observers built-in bias (prejudice), intended to inflame public opinion or to play down the impact of an event known only to the observer.

More often than not social media will only give you news and information tailored to what it thinks you want to read about.

What are the Consequences of Misinformation?

The effects of misinformation on your mental health is the same as gaslighting.

Gaslighting is described as a form of manipulation and control in which a victim is systematically and deliberately fed false information that leads them to question their own self-worth and even their sanity. It can occur as a form of emotional abuse in our personal and professional relationships, but overtime misinformation  from the media can have the same effect.

Constantly being fed false information can contribute to a victim’s sense of hopelessness and confusion and lead to mental health problems such as anxiety and depression.

An example of gaslighting by the media has been the news coverage of the Coronavirus.

According to scientists we know that the Coronavirus is officially called COVID-19; it comes from the same family of viruses as the common cold. 

COVID-19 is a new strain that has not been identified in humans; it’s zoonotic meaning its transmitted between animals and humans.

It’s recommended that to prevent the infection from spreading you need to wash your hands more frequently, cover your mouth when you cough and sneeze and to avoid close contact with anyone showing any of the symptoms listed above.

Since COVID-19 is a disease that was not previously known it’s only natural that people all over the world are experiencing anxiety and fear. I mentioned in a previous post about the fear of the unknown; it is a human instinct intended to protect you from potential threats. 

The amount of anxiety people are experiencing varies widely; since there’s an absence of clear cut resolutions many people are worrying and trying seek out more information in an effort to relieve their anxiety.

However, people seek information through the news; whether it’s through mainstream media or social media. The news is either embellished to exaggerate the story in order to get you to watch it more or the information is full of errors and inaccuracies that cause you to be in a constant state of confusion and make you feel hopeless as your anxiety worsens.

The constant negative news coverage has led to a form of collective gaslighting that’s making us more anxious than we have to be.

In a previous post I discussed the positive and negative effects of the internet and if your interested in reading that post please click below:

Don’t Want To Feed Into Your Fears? Here’s What To Do?

Focus On What You Can Control: If you’re feeling anxious and you’re seeing to resolve those feelings. Instead of using news media to try to resolve anxious thoughts you refocus your attention on what you can control, because to tell you the truth you have no control over things that are either happening or will happen. However, you are in control of how you react to what’s happening or to what you fear. 

Be Mindful That You’re Not The Only One Feeling Anxious: It’s comforting to know that you are not the only ones feeling anxious. If you’re looking to resolve your anxiety you’re better off talking about it with other people.

Mindfulness Meditation: The misinformation spread by the media can make it feel like reality is being distorted. Mindfulness Meditation helps you stay aware of what’s really going on; it protects your mental health and increases your attention span, along with helping out with slowing down racing thoughts and overwhelming feelings of anxiety.

Limit The Amount of Time You Consume Media: Limiting how much media you consume has many benefits including having a better ability to focus, having a greater sense of self-awareness and improved mental illness. It’s estimated that more than half of Americans experience stress and anxiety from watching the news, so reducing how much you watch is a positive.

Be Mindful About The Accuracy of The Information You Have: Start by empowering yourself with accurate information by fact-checking every piece of journalism you read and every headline you share on social media.

Have You Ever Felt More Anxious Trying To Find Answers To What You Fear?

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Feeling Stuck In Life (Part.2): Tips For Overcoming Stuckness

In my previous post I was discussing what it meant to feel stuck in life and why you feel stock. In today’s post I’ll be offering practical tips for overcoming the feeling of stuckness.

Why Do Some People Stay Stuck?

Many people end up staying stuck and unhappy for many reasons.

Reasons may include liking or depending on the financial stability that their job provides, they may fear change or fear failure and they may not have the education or resources to make a change.

However, there are some simple and realistic ways of getting unstuck.

Tips For Becoming Unstuck

Letting Go Of The Past: Holding on to the past, whether it’s unresolved baggage from a bad relationship, a past job or from a bad financial decision can cause us to sabotage ourselves when we start asking ourselves “What If” questions. If we look back at these memories and learn from them then let them go we can set ourselves free from baggage.

Change Your Perspective:  After letting go of the past it helps to take a break from your current situation whether you like to hike, go fishing or meditate to clear your mind in order to gain a new perspective about your life. You’ll notice that you no longer feel stuck when you learn how to perceive your life in a different way.

Take Baby Steps: Remember that small baby steps can become big things. For example, you can start reflecting on your life and start working toward what you truly want, instead of what other people want.

Explore Your Purpose: Your life purpose is what makes you feel alive. I’m referring to the you’re passionate about including a job that you enjoy doing, helping others reach their full potential or growing as a human.

Consider Hiring A Life Coach: The benefits of hiring a life coach include getting help with providing clarity, commitment and visioning your success, along with encouraging self-reflection and providing strategies and goals to suit your needs.

Learn How To Believe In Yourself Again: We learn how to believe in ourselves as we develop the courage to face inevitable obstacles, rather than getting discouraged and feeling defeated when an obstacle knocks us down.

Practice Being Hopeful: We might feel stuck, because of feelings of protective pessimism brought on by having a lot of disappointments in your life. However, when you need to change and overcome this negative way of thinking it helps to practice something that inspires hope. These include meditation, prayer or reading inspirational books.

Seek Professional Help: Some people might feel stuck because of an underlying mental health problem such as depression. I know from experience that episodes of depression can cause a change in how you perceive your life. If this is a problem that persists see a medical professional.

Conclusion 

The topic of today’s post came up a lot in conversations among my peers. Some of them are deeply indebted because of student loans, some are struggling to find affordable housing to buy or rent and others feel like they’re stuck because of lack of job satisfaction. 

There have been plenty of times in my life in which I felt stuck. I felt stuck after graduating college, because of underemployment and unsure about whether my chosen field was a good fit. I ended up going back to night school to study subjects such as college physics, computer programming and biology. Taking this small step eventually led to a better job. Its possible to not feel stuck anymore when you have the willingness to take action regardless of your situation.

Have You Gotten Stuck in Your Life?

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