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Benefits To Being Authentic

What Is Being An Authentic Self?

Being authentic is to come from a real place within yourself. It’s when your actions and words align with your beliefs and values. Also, it’s not caring about what other people think of you, especially when you’re expressing your whole self genuinely.

However, when you were growing up you might have been taught behaviors and standards by your parents and teachers that were intended to lay out rules for adapting to different situations, which is fine but this can lead to behaviors that aren’t authentic.

Consequences Of Not Being Authentic?!

When you’re living as your authentic self you’re trying to live truthfully and honestly, without trying to hide your feelings or being afraid to admit your weaknesses along with your strengths.

There are many reasons why you’ll try to hide who you really are.

Here’s an example! At work you might take on more assignments than you can actually handle. This is usually due to not only gain recognition within your organization, but furthering your career as well., which it not necessarily a bad thing.

However, there are a lot of people who also want recognition and success, but they seek it in inauthentic ways.

An Example Of Not Being Authentic?

For example people may seek validation by trying to please others, they’re preoccupied with what others think of them, they have a fear of being disrespected, they have an unwillingness to ask for help when they need it, “faking” it and they’ll put their own needs aside in order to become successful.

This way of inauthentic thinking has consequences on your physical and mental health. After constantly behaving in that way day after day it takes its toll. 

What Are Some Emotional and Physical Consequences?

Emotional Consequences Include:

  • Low Self Esteem
  • Lower Self Confidence 
  • Low Self Worth
  • Feeling Trapped
  • Low Self Respect 

Physical Consequences Include:

  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Tension 
  • Depression 
  • Lack of Self Care
  • High Blood Pressure 

Inauthentic living can not only damage your overall well being it can be a nightmare for someone who suffers from a chronic physical or mental health ailment. If you’re suffering from diabetes, hypertension, bipolar disorder, PTSD, major depression or an anxiety disorder it’s like dumping gasoline on a fire.

If you have a mental health condition such as bipolar disorder it’s common to have depressive episodes where you may feel low self worth, not respect yourself and also have tension, anxiety and high blood pressure.

When you’re not being your authentic self whether you’re at work or you’re with somebody you can experience stress and anxiety in addition to bipolar disorder.

Tips For Authenticity

Learning how to be your authentic self is important for not only your career and relationships it’s important for improving your overall well being.

Here Are Some Tips For Authenticity Include:

  • Identify Your Values and Incorporate Them Into Your Actions: It’s important to know what you value. Values are the glue that hold your actions together, for example only when you value self worth is when you’re able to take action for what you want, not what someone else wants.
  • Be Courageous Enough To Be Vulnerable: Being vulnerable is the willingness to take a risk and expose yourself emotionally and at the same time be able to endure the uncertainty of the results. It takes a lot of strength to be vulnerable and will allow you to connect with others on a deeper level and become more authentic.
  • Stop People Pleasing: Stop with equating success with trying to please everyone. You’re a human being and you’re hardwired for connection and to be in relationships. You’ll find that you’ll not only thrive when you connect with others, you’ll also feel less anxious and more authentic and that’s good if you suffer from a mental illness.
  • Healthier Boundaries: Having boundaries is being comfortable with who you are. You’ll learn that you don’t have to change yourself to be liked or neglecting your own needs. By setting boundaries you’ll have less anxiety.
  • Better Health: Being your authentic self means to not neglect your need to stay healthy. You’re more likely to eat healthy, get regular exercise and get regular physical exams, also your mental health improves when there’s less internal conflict with who you should be in order to please others. You’ll have a healthier life.

How Are You Being Authentic?

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https://www.psycom.net/finding-your-authentic-self/

https://unyte.com/blogs/news/the-impact-of-authenticity-on-your-mental-emotional-and-physical-health

https://www.jeffreyheiser.com/authentic-self/

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Feeling Stuck In Life (Part.2): Tips For Overcoming Stuckness

In my previous post I was discussing what it meant to feel stuck in life and why you feel stock. In today’s post I’ll be offering practical tips for overcoming the feeling of stuckness.

Why Do Some People Stay Stuck?

Many people end up staying stuck and unhappy for many reasons.

Reasons may include liking or depending on the financial stability that their job provides, they may fear change or fear failure and they may not have the education or resources to make a change.

However, there are some simple and realistic ways of getting unstuck.

Tips For Becoming Unstuck

Letting Go Of The Past: Holding on to the past, whether it’s unresolved baggage from a bad relationship, a past job or from a bad financial decision can cause us to sabotage ourselves when we start asking ourselves “What If” questions. If we look back at these memories and learn from them then let them go we can set ourselves free from baggage.

Change Your Perspective:  After letting go of the past it helps to take a break from your current situation whether you like to hike, go fishing or meditate to clear your mind in order to gain a new perspective about your life. You’ll notice that you no longer feel stuck when you learn how to perceive your life in a different way.

Take Baby Steps: Remember that small baby steps can become big things. For example, you can start reflecting on your life and start working toward what you truly want, instead of what other people want.

Explore Your Purpose: Your life purpose is what makes you feel alive. I’m referring to the you’re passionate about including a job that you enjoy doing, helping others reach their full potential or growing as a human.

Consider Hiring A Life Coach: The benefits of hiring a life coach include getting help with providing clarity, commitment and visioning your success, along with encouraging self-reflection and providing strategies and goals to suit your needs.

Learn How To Believe In Yourself Again: We learn how to believe in ourselves as we develop the courage to face inevitable obstacles, rather than getting discouraged and feeling defeated when an obstacle knocks us down.

Practice Being Hopeful: We might feel stuck, because of feelings of protective pessimism brought on by having a lot of disappointments in your life. However, when you need to change and overcome this negative way of thinking it helps to practice something that inspires hope. These include meditation, prayer or reading inspirational books.

Seek Professional Help: Some people might feel stuck because of an underlying mental health problem such as depression. I know from experience that episodes of depression can cause a change in how you perceive your life. If this is a problem that persists see a medical professional.

Conclusion 

The topic of today’s post came up a lot in conversations among my peers. Some of them are deeply indebted because of student loans, some are struggling to find affordable housing to buy or rent and others feel like they’re stuck because of lack of job satisfaction. 

There have been plenty of times in my life in which I felt stuck. I felt stuck after graduating college, because of underemployment and unsure about whether my chosen field was a good fit. I ended up going back to night school to study subjects such as college physics, computer programming and biology. Taking this small step eventually led to a better job. Its possible to not feel stuck anymore when you have the willingness to take action regardless of your situation.

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Feeling Stuck in Life (Part. 1): What Are The Signs?

In this post I’ll be exploring what it means to feel stuck in life. It’s not always the most pleasant feeling and it can leave us anxious and depressed, so it would be interesting to discuss it on a deeper level.

What Does It Mean To Feel Stuck in Life?

Feeling stuck in life or feeling like we’re hitting the wall is a feeling we will all experience a one time or another. Whether you’re a recent college graduate who is entering the workforce, someone who has grown unhappy in their chosen profession or if you’re unhappy in your personal life it can be a painful emotion. 

Feeling stuck in life or “stuckness” can make us feel like we’re drowning in mud when it seems like we can’t make progress in our lives.

Why Do We Feel Stuck in Life? 

We get stuck when we feel like our lives should be something different than it is. It occurs when it’s time to make a change when something isn’t working for you anymore. 

Signs That You’re Feeling Stuck in Life

When we’re feeling stuck in life there are many signs that include:

It’s Hard To Get Excited About Anything: Stuckness can cause a person to become depressed and cause you to perceive the world in a less upbeat way. When upbeat music is played on the radio it doesn’t excite you, you start seeing the world in black and white rather than in vivid colors and you become an overall boring person to be around.

You Keep Reminiscing About The Past: We all get nostalgic about past memories that bring us comfort and joy from time to time. However, stuckness can cause you to use past memories to substitute present experiences that you perceive as unpleasant. 

You’re Always Daydreaming About A Different Life: Stuckness can cause you to daydream about being somewhere else rather than where you are now. This can be a problem, because daydreaming too much can become a form of self-sabotage that disrupts your long-term goals toward improving your life.

Feeling That Your Life Has No Purpose: It’s a myth that money is the only motivator. Along with making money it’s important to be in a line of work that gives you a sense of purpose, whether it makes you happy or it’s rewarding.

Staying Put, Because It Feels “Safe”: Some people feel stuck, because they feel like there are no other alternatives. They feel that they have to stay somewhere despite being unhappy, because it’s the “safe” thing to do.

Feeling Unwell On A Regular Basis: Due to the stress and anxiety of feeling stuck in an unhappy situation you’ll find yourself feeling unwell on a regular basis. For example, if you have a job that stresses you out it may cause stomach issues.

Neglecting Your Health and Well-Being: Feeling stuck in life is a downward spiral that affects many aspects of your life. Chronic stress and anxiety can lead to depression and that can cause you to neglect your health and well-being, whether you stop exercising, eating a poor diet or neglecting your love life.

In part 2 I’ll be offering tips on how to not feel stuck anymore.

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intimacy-path-toward-spirituality/201610/if-you-re-feeling-stuck-may-be-why

https://medium.com/the-mission/feeling-stuck-in-life-this-is-how-to-take-powerful-action-to-live-a-rewarding-life-101703ff6865

https://www.themuse.com/advice/7-signs-youre-stuck-in-a-rut-and-need-to-make-a-change-today

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What is Burnout and How is it Handled? Version 2.0

What is Burnout?

Burnout is an emotional, physical and mental state caused by excessive and prolonged work-related stress. It occurs when you feel emotionally drained, overwhelmed and no longer able to meet constant demands.

Anyone can be inflicted with burnout regardless of who you are. Modern society has glorified stress and we all want to be viewed as the best, so we tend to keep quiet and shut up about the stress we face.

Burnout is a personal and complex issue that affects an estimated 28% of working Americans overall. The rate of burnout is higher depending on your career path. If you work as a highly stressed out professional like a Surgeon or a Physician the rate of burnout is more than 50%.

Busyness and stress are so commonplace that we have a hard time telling the difference between being temporarily bogged down by stress and having a much larger problem like burnout.

Burnout can spillover into everyday life and can affect your home, work and social life.

The type of burnout being discussed in this blog is workplace burnout.

Burnout is characterized by:

Physical Symptoms: These include chest pains, heart palpitations, shortness of breath, gastrointestinal pain, dizziness, fainting and headaches.

Cynicism: A common symptom of burnout that’s characterized by the belief that people are only out for themselves and no one can be trusted. This can cause  loss of enjoyment, pessimism about the future and feelings of isolation.

Detachment: A feeling of disconnection from others or from your environment. 

Feeling a Lack of Accomplishment: A perceived lack of success characterized by feelings of apathy, hopelessness and feelings of ineffectiveness. Overtime this leads to lower productivity and poor performance at work.

Lower Resistance to Illness: Burnout overtime can lead to the depletion of the body’s immune system and making someone more prone to infections, colds, flu and other immune related ailments.

Depleted energy levels: The early stages of burnout can leave someone with a lack of energy and feel tired most days. Over time they’ll feel physically and emotionally exhausted and start having feelings of dread about what tomorrow brings.

Loss of Appetite: Someone may not feel hungry and skip a few meals, but they may lose their appetite altogether and start losing a significant amount of weight.

Anxiety: Starts out as mild symptoms of tension, worry and eagerness. Overtime anxiety can become so serious that it interferes with your ability to work productively and can cause problems in your personal life.

Depression: It starts out as feeling mildly sad and occasionally feel hopeless, guilty and worthless. Prolonged stress of burnout can make depression worse by making someone feel trapped and in severe cases can make them think that the world would be better off without them. If depression gets that severe call a professional.

Sleep Problems: Someone may have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep at least one or two nights a week. Overtime they can develop insomnia.

Why Do We Get Burned Out?

Burnout can be caused by:

Heavy Workload: Trying to do more work than we can complete and can cause stress.

Lack of Control: When we’re given an appropriate level of responsibility and have the tools or resources needed to do our jobs well we’ll feel satisfied and competent in our jobs. However, if we don’t have those things we can feel a lack of control.

Insufficient Reward: Sufficient rewards include financial rewards like high pay and good benefits, social rewards such as recognition from the company we work for and Intrinsic rewards such as the feeling that we’re doing a job well. Burnout happens when all three of these rewards are lacking and we start feeling dissatisfied. 

Lack of Community: If a workplace has a strong sense of community that includes good team work, low levels of conflict and positive social interactions it can make a workplace less stressful. However, if the opposite is true and there’s no team work, high levels of conflict and negative social interactions the workplace can become toxic and more stressful.

Absence of Fairness: We can develop feelings of being disrespected if there is a perceived lack of fairness in the workplace. Many examples of perceived unfairness include unequal workload or pay, workplace cheating, promotions and evaluations being mishandled and disputes being resolved poorly.

If these workplace related issues occur it’s important to talk to your employer or talk to a colleague.

Can Personality Traits Play A Role In Burnout?

According to Forbes.com personality traits can play a role in burnout.

The Workaholic: An individual that is performance oriented and struggles with lack of self-care and a neglected personal life.

The People Pleaser: An individual that is overly agreeable and feels responsible for how other people feel. They tend to have trouble saying “no” due to putting someone else’s needs before theirs.

The Perfectionist: An individual that strives for flawlessness and setting high performance standards. They feel like impostors on the inside.

There are many problems that occur that can make you more prone to burnout:

Debt: Student loans, credit card debt, mortgages and car loans.

Uncertain Work: Lack of job security.

Unrealistic Expectations: Having expectations that are beyond your energy, skills, talents and time.

Being Time-Poor: No finding time to take care of yourself.

Financially Struggling: Financial worries are a major source of stress.

Bad Sleep Habits: Not getting at least 8 hours of sleep a night can make you less resilient to stress.

Drinking Too Much Coffee: Drinking too much coffee can make anxiety worse.

Sedentary Lifestyle: Anxious from lying on the couch watching TV and eating the wrong foods.

 What Can We Do About Burnout?

Burnout doesn’t go away on its own and it gets worse if it’s causes aren’t addressed.

Get Help: Burnout can be a serious health problem, so it’s important to see a professional for treatment.

Focus on your own health and well being: Focusing on sleep, exercise and eating well can help you recover from burnout. Getting at least 8 hours of sleep a night can replenish our health and well being by boosting our immune system and allows for our bodies to repair themselves. Exercise is beneficial for both health and well being along with eating a diet rich in fruits and vegetables.

Find a Release: Finding a way to let off some steam is very important for your health and well being along with relieving work related stress. Whether it’s gardening, video games, hiking or kayaking these activities are not only fun, they’re good for letting off steam.

Take a Vacation: It’s important to get away from it all, whether it’s a long weekend in the mountains, a vacation in Florida or even working remotely in a park, coffee shop or at home.

Realign Your Life to What You Really Want: Burnout may be caused by an underlying problem with what you are doing with your life. Are you happy in your job? Should you quit your job? What is your purpose in life? It’s important to ask these questions, because feeling stuck in a life you’re not happy in can spin you into a burnout loop.

Learn How to Say “no”: Saying no is very important for maintaining healthy boundaries and enables others to have clarity about what they can expect from you.It’s also important for deflecting distractions, staying true to yourself and you won’t beat yourself up mentally.

Overhaul Your Life: If the burnout loop continues even after rest and relaxation there might be a much bigger problem. It’s important to learn that your success not only hinges on good grades and hard work, but also your ability to be resilient in the face of stress. 

It’s possible to be successful without burning out. It starts with leaving behind the mindset and habits that cause stress to build up and to make choices that lead to better overall health and well being.

  • It’s very important to reevaluate your life to pinpoint what is leading to burnout. 
  • Break free from burnout by identifying what your needs are. 
  • Hire a life coach to help you break burnout inducing habits. 
  • Identify personalized strategies to boost your resilience.  

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What is a Digital Nomad?

In this blog I’ll be exploring the interesting lifestyle of the Digital Nomad.

We live in a time where we’re anxious about feeling unfulfilled and stuck in life. These feelings can be the result of lack of career satisfaction and not tapping into our full potential due to feeling stuck in a toxic 9 to 5 job that has limited growth potential unless we go into debt to acquire more education credentials. Even with more credentials career growth and even job security aren’t always guaranteed.

There has been an increase in the number of entrepreneurs and freelancers as a result of layoffs due corporate downsizing, the desire to be our own boss, the desire to have a flexible schedule the allow us to work anywhere due to improved technologies and also to fill in the gaps created by the lack of fulfillment.

When all of these factors are put together we get the Digital Nomad.

What is a Digital Nomad?

A digital nomad is usually a self-employed person who uses telecommunication technologies to earn a living and lives in a nomadic way. 

What is The Difference Between a Digital Nomad and a Freelancer?


Both types of employment are about being location independent and working remotely, however they’re not the same. Being a Digital Nomad requires that you quickly adapt to working in another region or part of the world with people from different cultures and traditions vs. Being a Freelancer that doesn’t require you to travel.

A digital nomad is a worker that works remotely in:

Foreign Countries: Popular foreign locations for digital nomads including:

  • Thailand
  • Colombia
  • Mexico
  • Bali
  • Canary Islands

Coffee Shops: Digital Nomads and freelancers in general tend to work a lot in coffee shops. They enjoy the relaxing and cozy vibe along with free Wi-Fi. Many freelancers, also use coffee shops to connect and network with potential clients.

Public Libraries: The public library is among the quietest and cheapest locations for Digital Nomads to work.

Co-Working Spaces: Co-working spaces are basically shared offices for Digital Nomads that offer amentities found in an office such as meeting rooms, hot-rooms, wi-Fi connections and kitchen areas.

Recreational Vehicles: Digital Nomads don’t necessarily have to go abroad. There are some in the United States that are location independent thanks to living out of Recreational Vehicles (RVs).

How Many Digital Nomads Are There?

It is estimated that almost 5 million people worldwide are Digital Nomads and there are many more aspiring to become nomadic in the coming years.

What Do You Need To Become a Digital Nomad?

According to locationindie.com these are some of the things you need to do to become a Digital Nomad.

Here’s how to become a Digital Nomad:

Begin With Severing Local Ties: I’m not referring to severing ties with friends, instead I’m discussing the things in your life that are tying you down to a location.

Including:

  • Long-Term Apartment Lease
  • Vehicle Lease
  • Gym Membership
  • Subscription Services
  • Unneeded Junk
  • Any Debt

Become Part of a Digital Nomad Community: When you’re starting out as a Digital Nomad it helps to start networking with as many like-minded people as possible. This can be achieved by joining social media groups and forums in order to get advice from other people. There’s a popular digital nomad community called Location Indie that will help you and provide you with a wealth of knowledge that will help you along the way.

Identify your Marketable Skills: This is a big one, because Digital Nomads make their living by monetizing their skills online.

Become a Freelancer: When you become a Freelancer you’re essentially location independent although travel is not required. Platforms such as UpWork or RemoteOK post jobs that are remote or location independent and they can help you get started in finding work in whatever field you work in. Once you get good at working remotely at home or a public place then it’s time to take the next step and become a Digital Nomad.

Create a Plan: When you create a plan to become a Digital Nomad this can include:

  • Making Sure Your Finances are in Order
  • Having a Plan on How To Acquire Clients
  • Decide on What Lifestyle You Want
  • Decide Where Your First Destination Will Be

What Work Do Digital Nomads Do?

Most common digital nomad careers:

  • Web or App Development
  • eCommerce Entrepreneurship
  • Online Marketing
  • Infopreneurship, Blogging and Affiliate Marketing
  • Copywriting/Content Writing
  • Web, UI and Graphic Design
  • Coaching & Consulting
  • Software Entrepreneurship

How Much Do Digital Nomads Earn?

According to www.techrepublic.com Almost ⅕ of Digital Nomads can command a high salary of at least $100,000 per year and another 1/4 command a salary from $50,000 to $99,999 per year which is above the median salary of your average 9 to 5 worker.

Is it Legal to be a Digital Nomad?

Yes! It is legal to be a Digital Nomad. It is a requirement in other countries to periodically leave and come back in order to apply for a new visa.

What are the Pros of Being a Digital Nomad?

The pros of being a Digital Nomad:

Flexible Office Space: Have you ever that trapped feeling of having to work in the same sterile office cubicle every day? Digital Nomads can choose their own working environments. Due to the improvements made to Wi-Fi and internet access all over the world it’s possible to pick the type of work environment you want. Whether it’s at a hostel in Thailand, a coffee shop in Colombia or a beach in Bali. Being a Digital Nomad can give you that kind of freedom. 

Set Your Own Hours and Workloads While Seeing The World: The 9 to 5 is not for everyone. Digital nomads can set their own work hours. Also, just like with freelancing digital nomads can mange their own workloads. Digital Nomads can see the world while working remotely.

Less Stressful Work Environment: Have you ever been in a work environment that was stressful. Work stressors can include long hours, heavy work load and conflicts with co-workers and bosses. These problems can result in work related depression, anxiety and sleep problems.

No Commuting or Dressing Up: Since Digital Nomads are workplace independent they don’t have to endure the long tiring commutes that most 9 to 5 workers have to endure. Digital nomads can dress any way they like. If you want to work on the beach in a bathing suit or dress casual while working in a shared work space you can do that.

What are The Cons of Being a Digital Nomad?

The cons of being a digital nomad:

Bureaucracy and Other Travel Related Problems: There are some countries where it’s hard to get a work visa due to bureaucracy and red tape. If you know how to work around this you’ll stay out of trouble abroad.

Other travel related problems can include:

  • Being Taken Advantage Of
  • Travel Related Stress and Anxiety
  • Fear of The Unknown

Regardless of where your destination is it’s important to plan ahead for any potential problem in order to minimize the amount of stress and anxiety that can result from the unexpected.

No Guaranteed Income or Health Benefits: Your income is hardly ever guaranteed if you’re a freelancer or a digital nomad. When you’re first starting out you may have potential clients lined up and after that you may not have any, so it’s important that you have good acquisition and networking skills in order to keep up. Since Digital Nomads are self-employed there’s no employer provided health benefits, so there are many that rely on travel insurance instead.

Must be Used To Hard Work and Must Be Self-Motivated: Despite not working a 9 to 5 job; it’s not necessarily easier than working for someone. When you’re starting out you have to work harder to get yourself off the ground and even after that it’s usually a seven day work week and no holidays. Many digital nomads develop a work-life balance that can make every day feel like a holiday. I used to be self employed and it’s harder than it looks. There are so many distractions that can interfere with your productivity so it’s important to be self-motivated.

Communication Can Be Difficult: There are many places around the world that have to deal with frequent power and internet outages. Another challenge is finding out that your device is not compatible with the local network frequencies, so it’s important to find out what you need to do before you head for a particular destination.

Can Be Lonely: When you’re a digital nomad you meet all kinds of interesting people all over the world, but you don’t always form long term connections with other people. It’s especially hard when you only socialize with other Digital Nomads. It also gets lonely when you are missing family and friends from back home. However, with the rise of of platforms such as Skype and Face Time it’s easier than ever before to communicate with loved ones remotely.

Burnout: Constantly moving from place to place comes with its own set of problems that become increasingly annoying with time. For many people being a digital nomad is a lifestyle that allows for the freedom of being able to be your own boss while seeing the world, but it can be exhausting. A typical digital nomad will hang out in a city or country for a few weeks before moving on to the next. You’re finishing up one assignment one day and then the next you must get up and move again to another one. Many people enjoy this life, but for others it gets old after awhile. 

Being Questioned by Other People: The advantages and disadvantages of the Digital Nomad lifestyle is not always apparent to everyone. It’s common to be in situations in which you’ll be asked some potentially irritating questions.

Questions include:

  • When are you going to settle down?
  • When are you going to get a “real” job?
  • Is it dangerous to travel?

These type of questions can be irritating, but they do help do discover your values and question whether being a Digital Nomad is right for you.

Conclusion

The purpose of this blog is to give you an inside look into the alternative lifestyle of being a Digital Nomad.

It is being driven by a combination of factors such as:

  • Freelancing and Entrepreneurship
  • Anxiety Driven by a Lack of Career and Life Satisfaction
  • Most Importantly a Love for Traveling

Do You Know Anyone Who is a Digital Nomad?

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