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Is Mass Media Feeding Your Anxiety? Version 2.0


How Do You Feed Your Anxiety?

I mentioned in a previous post about the fear of the unknown. It occurs when we’re faced with something that’s unfamiliar or something we don’t understand. 

We become anxious about what that unknown thing means for our lives; most of us cope by exercising, listening to music or connecting with friends. However, there are some people who seek out information in an effort to resolve their anxiety; it may or may not be true and sometimes it ends up being misinformation that causes us to become more anxious toward that unknown thing they fear.

Misinformation refers to false or inaccurate information. Sometimes its due to errors or inaccuracies caused by false rumors, insults, pranks or embellishment; other times it’s due to disinformation caused by the deliberate falsehood by design and this includes malicious content such as hoaxes or propaganda.

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What are the Sources of Misinformation?

Misinformation along with disinformation and propaganda has been around as long as mass communication; which began with the development of the printing press at the end of the 14th century. 

In today’s world we are constantly bombarded with mass media including the mainstream media and social media.

The mainstream media consists of news organizations and their websites. They are always competing with each other for ratings or views and they’ve always embellished news stories.

To embellish something is to add something more interesting or entertaining to add extra details to a news story, especially the ones that are not true.

Due to the rise of internet news organizations along with social media mainstream media news organizations have seen a decline in ratings among the coveted 18 to 49 year old age demographic. Not only news media, but television viewership in general. Declining viewership had meant declining quality in the form of embellishment.

Social media is emerging as the main source of news online; along with other digital technologies. Platforms such as Facebook, Twitter and YouTube have allowed journalists to instantly report just by using their smartphones.

Over 77 million Americans have a social media profile. Being on social media allows you to easily connect with a large audience. It’s an effortless way to connect with like minded people regardless of location with just a single click.

Observers often lack the skills and motivation to interview participants to get the full unvarnished story. This can lead to the reporting of news that’s often distorted by the observers built-in bias (prejudice), intended to inflame public opinion or to play down the impact of an event known only to the observer.

More often than not social media will only give you news and information tailored to what it thinks you want to read about.

What are the Consequences of Misinformation?

The effects of misinformation on your mental health is the same as gaslighting.

Gaslighting is described as a form of manipulation and control in which a victim is systematically and deliberately fed false information that leads them to question their own self-worth and even their sanity. It can occur as a form of emotional abuse in our personal and professional relationships, but overtime misinformation  from the media can have the same effect.

Constantly being fed false information can contribute to a victim’s sense of hopelessness and confusion and lead to mental health problems such as anxiety and depression.

An example of gaslighting by the media has been the news coverage of the Coronavirus.

According to scientists we know that the Coronavirus is officially called COVID-19; it comes from the same family of viruses as the common cold. 

COVID-19 is a new strain that has not been identified in humans; it’s zoonotic meaning its transmitted between animals and humans.

It’s recommended that to prevent the infection from spreading you need to wash your hands more frequently, cover your mouth when you cough and sneeze and to avoid close contact with anyone showing any of the symptoms listed above.

Since COVID-19 is a disease that was not previously known it’s only natural that people all over the world are experiencing anxiety and fear. I mentioned in a previous post about the fear of the unknown; it is a human instinct intended to protect you from potential threats. 

The amount of anxiety people are experiencing varies widely; since there’s an absence of clear cut resolutions many people are worrying and trying seek out more information in an effort to relieve their anxiety.

However, people seek information through the news; whether it’s through mainstream media or social media. The news is either embellished to exaggerate the story in order to get you to watch it more or the information is full of errors and inaccuracies that cause you to be in a constant state of confusion and make you feel hopeless as your anxiety worsens.

The constant negative news coverage has led to a form of collective gaslighting that’s making us more anxious than we have to be.

In a previous post I discussed the positive and negative effects of the internet and if your interested in reading that post please click below:

Don’t Want To Feed Into Your Fears? Here’s What To Do?

Focus On What You Can Control: If you’re feeling anxious and you’re seeing to resolve those feelings. Instead of using news media to try to resolve anxious thoughts you refocus your attention on what you can control, because to tell you the truth you have no control over things that are either happening or will happen. However, you are in control of how you react to what’s happening or to what you fear. 

Be Mindful That You’re Not The Only One Feeling Anxious: It’s comforting to know that you are not the only ones feeling anxious. If you’re looking to resolve your anxiety you’re better off talking about it with other people.

Mindfulness Meditation: The misinformation spread by the media can make it feel like reality is being distorted. Mindfulness Meditation helps you stay aware of what’s really going on; it protects your mental health and increases your attention span, along with helping out with slowing down racing thoughts and overwhelming feelings of anxiety.

Limit The Amount of Time You Consume Media: Limiting how much media you consume has many benefits including having a better ability to focus, having a greater sense of self-awareness and improved mental illness. It’s estimated that more than half of Americans experience stress and anxiety from watching the news, so reducing how much you watch is a positive.

Be Mindful About The Accuracy of The Information You Have: Start by empowering yourself with accurate information by fact-checking every piece of journalism you read and every headline you share on social media.

Have You Ever Felt More Anxious Trying To Find Answers To What You Fear?

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Social Media’s Role In Pandemic

It’s interesting to see the human response to the COVID-19 pandemic. I’ve already discussed how being on lockdown is leading to more active sex lives, how some people cope with their anxiety through being creative and how some people are helping others in this crisis.

In part.4 I’ll be discussing how people respond to the pandemic through social media.

What is Social Media?

Social media is a term that used to describe websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking. Social media platforms include Facebook, Instagram and Zoom.

Social Media! A Curse or a Blessing?

The consumption of social media has increased since the beginning of the pandemic. The role of social media has been paradoxical since this crisis started. It’s been a curse and a blessing at the same time.

It’s been a curse due to the large amount of misinformation about the pandemic that’s feeding into our anxiety. Also, before this crisis it was well documented that overuse of social media has been linked to low self-esteem, anxiety and depression.

However social media has been a blessing for many reasons as well.

Why is Social Media A Blessing?

Reasons Social Media is a Blessing Include:

  • Crowdsourcing: This involves seeking knowledge, goods or services from a large body of people through social media. Crowdsourcing is being used by organizations and individuals to raise funds to purchase Personal Protective Equipment (PPE).
  • A Marketing Platform: Despite some companies preying on the COVID-19 mass hysteria, there are others providing powerful and empathetic responses to this crisis. The main responsibility of brands right now is to provide for the safety and wellbeing for not only their employees, but their customers as well.
  • A Source of Information: We never had more real time information available in the face of a worldwide event until now. Social media provides information that can provide us with a better understanding of what’s occurring and how it might impact us.
  • Virtual Medicine: Virtual medicine is helping to make access to healthcare more convenient and help those who are most vulnerable. People can see and talk to a doctor through their smartphone, tablet or computer instead of visiting the doctor’s office. 
  • Keep In Touch With Family And Friends: Platforms such as Zoom make it easier to connect with family and friends remotely. Due to lockdown and social distancing many people can’t see their loved ones face-to-face, so they’re connecting via social media. 
  • Working-At-Home: Social media is being used to keep remote workers connected with their employers while on lockdown. 

Do You Use Social Media More While Under Lockdown?

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Sources:

https://techxplore.com/news/2020-03-social-media-positive-possibilities-pandemic.html

https://khoros.com/blog/social-medias-role-during-covid-19

https://newsroom.uhc.com/open-enrollment/virtual-visits.html

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Increased Sex Drive In Lockdown

The current COVID-19 pandemic is causing people from over the world to respond differently to it. Some people are becoming more compassionate while others are becoming colder, some people are coping through art and music while others are coping in negative ways such as drugs and alcohol. I’ll be discussing the sexual response to the COVID-19 coronavirus.

Is The Pandemic Affecting You Sex Drive?

It’s interesting to hear about the conflicting reports about the COVID-19 pandemic having an affect on people’s sex drives.

The stress from the ongoing crisis and having to be on lockdown is putting a damper on desire for many people, but for others the stress is making them horny. 

What Are The Reasons?

Reasons For Increased Sex Drive Include:

Reminded Of Our Own Mortality: The morbid 24/7 news coverage of the pandemic is constantly reminding us of our own mortality. In order to cope we change our attitudes and behaviors in ways designed to help us cope.

Loneliness In Isolation: I mentioned in a previous blog that we’re facing a loneliness epidemic partly due to the internet adversely affecting in-person connection. Lockdown and social distancing is making this problem worse, so some people are doubling down on not only connecting with new friends online, but also online dating that involves texting and video chat along with sexting.

 Killing Boredom: A lot of singles and couples have been responding to lockdown boredom and spicing up their sex lives at the same time with the use of sex toys. It’s been reported that the same of sex toys increased since the pandemic began.

More Time On Our Hands: Due to other distractions in our lives such as working, long commutes, school, family obligations many couples have been too stressed or too busy to get intimate. Veering between social distancing and close cohabitation there have been a lot rediscovering each other while under lockdown.

Lockdown Heats Up Erotica: The COVID-19 pandemic has given birth to a new genre called quarantine erotica. Social distancing has led to the writing of raunchy stories about love in the time of COVID-19.

What Should You Be Aware Of?

If you are someone who has an increased sex drive as a reaction to this current crisis there are some facts you should be aware of.

Looming Global Condom Shortage: Due to Malaysia being on lockdown and the shutting down of factories owned by Karex, which is the largest condom company in the world had to shut down production resulting in a disruption in the global supply chain due to COVID-19. I recommend stocking up on extra condoms instead of extra toilet paper.

Online Dating Scams: If you’re starting out with online dating be aware of scammers. Online dating scams include catfishing, which is luring a victim into a relationship based on the attacker’s fictitious online persona. 

Economic Slump: Be mindful of what the economy might do during and after this pandemic. If you don’t have a job or you might be losing your job due to a downturn be careful of unwanted pregnancy.

Spread Of STIs: Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) already occur even without a pandemic, however since the medical system is tied up at the moment with COVID-19 patients it might be hard to get treatment.

COVID-19 And dating!

COVID-19 Has Made Dating Difficult: Even before the pandemic dating was already difficult. Now it’s a new challenge; due to social distancing we have to stand 6 feet from one another, we can’t hug each other or kiss each other because of the virus. Experts say that you’re at risk of catching the virus if you’re meeting someone for the first time or if you see someone, but don’t live together. If couples were already cohabitating then there’s less of a chance of getting sick. This is the reason why virtual dating is popular for singles right now.

How Are You Responding To This Crisis?

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Sources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/202004/why-the-lockdown-is-turning-some-people-others

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/04/coronavirus-roommate-loneliness-sex.html

https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/magazines/panache/intimacy-in-the-time-of-corona-home-bound-couples-find-love-as-sale-of-condoms-go-up/articleshow/74793351.cms

https://www.wired.co.uk/article/coronavirus-pandemic-sex-toys

https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/mind-and-body/how-to-deal-loneliness-self-isolation-coronavirus

https://www.dw.com/en/love-in-the-time-of-coronavirus-covid-19-changes-the-game-for-online-dating/a-52933001

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Habits That Lead To Success

What Are Habits?

Habits are routine behaviors that are repeated regularly and tend to occur subconsciously. They are automatic responses to specific situations that can be either good or bad.

Examples of Habits

Examples of habits include everyday essential activities such as taking a shower, brushing your teeth or getting dressed for work.

There are habits that are good for us that we work hard on establishing. These include eating well, exercising and getting enough sleep.

However, there are habits that are bad for us. These include procrastination, envy, caring too much about what other people think and apologizing too much.

It’s possible to adopt new habits that lead to success. This can happen by changing your bad habits and replacing them with new ones. It’s interesting that when you create a new habit your brain creates a new neurological pathway allowing you to more easily use those habits.

What Habits Lead To Success?

Success starts with you. 

Factors such as your personality, your motivations and your habits determine how successful you’ll be at achieving a goal.

Here are some habits that successful people adopt:

Finding a Sense of Purpose: When successful people find their sense of purpose it fuels their motivation. It also gives them a definite sense of direction toward what they want to achieve.

Developing a Powerful Daily Routine: A powerful morning routine can include waking up earlier than you have to in order to practice daily gratitude, reading something uplifting and getting active with a morning exercise routine. Also, use your time in the morning to plan your time wisely by block scheduling your daily tasks.

Embrace Failure and Try Again Every Time: Just because you fail at something doesn’t make you a failure. Once you figured out what went wrong try again and you may succeed.

Taking Risks: I mentioned in a previous post that it’s important to learn how to face the fear of the unknown. It’s also good take risks in order to be successful at achieving your goals.

Building Confidence in Your Abilities: Confidence comes from feelings of well-being and believing in your ability, skills and experience

Letting go of the Past: Holding on to the past can hold you back. It not only holds back your own happiness, but your success as well.

How Have You Become Successful In Your Life?

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https://greatperformersacademy.com/habits/10-bad-habits-that-will-hold-you-back-from-being-successful

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Making Leading Edge Decisions

What Does It Mean To Make A Decision?

What is Decision Making? It’s the process of deciding something based on a logical choice from available options.

When we’re trying to make a decision we take a look at the positives and negatives of the options available, along with considering the possible alternatives. 

After looking at the available options we also must be able to forecast the outcome of the final decision. 

An important factor that’s overlooked that affects decision making is being aware or mindful of our own thoughts and emotions.

Why is Good Decision Making Important?

The cornerstone of good leadership skills is the ability to make a decision and stick to it.

Decision making is an ongoing process in every business regardless of size and also in our personal lives as well. 

Having critical thinking skills allows us to approach a problem and decide on a solution that is beneficial to not only yourself, but to other members of your organization or those close to you in your personal life.

What Influences Our Decisions?

There are a lot of factors that we’re not aware of that can influence the decisions we’re making.

These factors include:

Our Thoughts and Emotions: Our own thoughts and emotions can affect our decisions, not only the nature of those decisions, but also the speed in which they’re made. If your judgement is off due to negative thoughts that lead to anger and make you impatient and cause you to make rash decisions.

Being Hungry: It’s interesting that feelings or states of being can spill over from one area to another. This occurs a lot with our physical desires, for example when we feel hungry or thirsty it can affect the decision areas of our brains. We can feel more desire for big rewards and this can motivate us to make higher risk choices and keep wanting more.

Quality of Ventilation: This is important, because the physical environment can have an effect on our physical and mental health along with our cognitive health. For example when the level of CO2 in your workplace is increased it can cause a decrease in cognitive and mental abilities and lead to poor decision making. It’s a good idea that your work environment has adequate ventilation and plants to decrease CO2 levels.

Number of Choices: Sometimes our ability to make decisions can be affected by the number of choices we have in front of us. When we’re presented with two or more choices it’s easy to look at the pros and cons of each choice. However, if we’re bombarded with endless choices whether we’re car shopping, using dating apps or entertainment apps it leads to a paradox of choice than makes decision making more difficult.

Past Experiences: This is an interesting one. Past experiences can impact present and future decision making. These include events that happened when you’re younger that shape the way you think, act and interact with people close to you.

Familiarity: Making decisions based on factors that are familiar with is deeply entrenched in our minds without being aware of it. We not only like things we’re familiar with, but we fear and judge anything that is different.

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How Being Mindful Leads To Better Decision Making?

Decision making is not always as simple as saying “yes” or “no” and it’s not always a thoughtful or cognitive exercise, instead it can be an impulsive reaction to satisfy immediate needs.

We make decisions everyday about what we eat, when we leave for work, how often we check our smartphones or what assignment to complete. We also make crucial decisions that affect ourselves and others. Many people are not aware how important day-to-day decisions really are until they make the wrong ones. 

Sometimes we fear the unknown so much that we make bad decisions due to fear and anxiety.

Conventional decision making can only take you so far, so it’s important to learn about mindfulness.

Mindfulness is the practice of focusing on the moment-to-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations and the environment around us.

Mindfulness is one of the most powerful tools for understanding your mind and focusing your attention. It can be applied in many ways including:

Mindful Breathing:  Mindfulness involves focusing your attention on your breathing. When you’re focusing on the rise and fall of your chest or the sensation through your nostrils your breath becomes an object of concentration when you start becoming aware of your mind’s tendency to jump from one thought to another.

Finding Your Purpose: Mindfulness makes you more aware of your purpose which leads to a greater sense of direction, a valued sense of self and a more meaningful life. Once you know your purpose you get to decide whether saying “yes” or “no” to a decision will ultimately serve your purpose.

Making Informed Decisions: Mindfulness can make the decision making process a thoughtful and cognitive exercise by making us aware of our impulsivity. For example, it’s important to be informed of the full impact of a decision before it’s made rather than be impulsive and regret your decision.

Finding Balance Between the Heart and the Brain: Overtime we’ve become more reliant on the human brain alone for day to day decisions. It was never meant to be the main source of wisdom and decision making. It has tendencies to push the human body past healthy limits and may result in fear, doubt and insecurities. In my previous post I mentioned that mindfulness puts an emphasis on dropping into your heart space, by doing that the brain and heart balance each other out. The brain receives the information that we make decisions from and the heart incorporates wisdom to help make good decisions.

What Do You Do Before Making Decisions?

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Sources:

https://open.buffer.com/decision-making/

https://www.bachremedies.com/en-us/emotional-health-blog/how-do-our-emotions-affect-decision-making

https://blog.hubspot.com/sales/the-psychology-of-choice

https://www.customerservicemanager.com/decision-making/

https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/mindful_breathing

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tracking-wonder/201902/mindful-approach-decision-making

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The Positive and Negative Effects of the Internet.

The world we live in is experiencing rapid technological change. The technology that is leading the way is the internet.

What is the internet?

A worldwide network of interconnected computer networks that utilize standard communication protocols. Sometimes nicknamed “the Net”.

How has the internet changed the world?

No technological innovation since the development of the printing press has changed how information is made available.

The internet has been the biggest driver of social evolution since the 1990s. 

It has changed:

Business

Education

Government

Healthcare

How we interact with loved ones

How we date and make new friends

I mentioned in a past blog about how the internet is changing how we get jobs and obtain education and the growing importance of social networks such as Linkedin.

What are the positive impacts of the internet?

The internet has led to many positive changes including:

Staying in touch: The internet makes it easier for you to stay in touch with other people like never before. We keep in touch through email and instant messaging but also through social media outlets like Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. It’s now possible to keep in touch with a loved one that’s 3000 miles away everyday.

Improvement in business interactions and transactions: Sellers and buyers can now make transactions online through payment services such as paypal or through credit cards. The growth of online businesses has led to changes in money. Since 2009 there has been a rapid growth in cryptocurrencies that buyers and sellers trade with each other in exchange for goods and services. An example of a cryptocurrency is Bitcoin.

Easier to do Research: If it weren’t for the internet, it would not be as easy and fast to do research for my blog. Search engines such as Google and Bing have made doing research a lot easier.

Easier to work at home: The internet has made it possible for someone to work from home. Companies such as Google and Amazon have allowed their employees to work from home, but it’s possible to earn an income from home as a writer and also by having an online home based business.

What are the negative impacts of the internet?

Online bullying: Online bullying occurs particularly on social media platforms such as facebook and twitter. 

Cyber crime: A grim reality of being online is the risk of cyber crime. Examples include identity theft, transaction fraud, hacking, piracy and phishing. 

Internet addiction: Addiction comes in many forms, but internet addiction doesn’t get as much attention as it should. It comes in many forms including addiction to cybersex, online gaming, cyber relationships and compulsive online shopping.

Never being able to disconnect from work: There is a huge problem with a growing number of people not being able to disconnect from work. Thanks to technologies that allow us to connect to the internet from anywhere there is a wifi connection. The defined barrier between work life and personal life has been blurred. A negative consequence of being unable to disconnect from work is not being able to decompress and destress from the work day. The inability to escape from work related stress can lead to a lack of sleep. The lack of sleep overtime leads to increased stress and higher rates of obesity and heart disease. Mental health problems caused by not be able to de stress lead to depression, anxiety and lower morale that contribute to burnout.

Affects patience and focus: The internet has led to a loss of patience and focus. The need for instant gratification has caused many people to have a hard time coping with uncertainty, inconvenience and boredom.

Physical and Mental health effects: The amount of stress that people feel from prolonged internet usage has led to problems with physical and mental health. Physical ailments include obesity, heart disease and carpal tunnel syndrome . Mental health problems from excessive internet usage include depression, anxiety, hostility, social isolation and in some cases psychosis.

What can we do?

Technology like the internet is neither good nor bad. It brings us a lot of benefits, but also a lot of problems, also.

There are things we can do to improve our wellbeing:

Making time for actual face-to-face contact: The tide is starting to turn. People are actually craving real human contact. There’s a huge difference when you communicate with someone through social media vs. communicating with someone face-to-face. This can be achieved by simply spending time with family and friends you already have or going outside your comfort zone by making new non-internet friends through group activities.

Exercise: A great way to not only manage your health but to improve it also. Even something simple like walking for twenty minutes a day over time can go a long way. After your work you should consider taking up yoga and meditation.

Limit electronic usage before bedtime: In a previous blog I was discussing the causes of sleep problems and these included the use of electronic devices before bedtime. Laptops and smartphones emit a white light that interfere with your body’s ability to produce melatonin. These devices basically act as artificial suns that trick your body into thinking that the sun is still out. Lack of sleep can cause online induced anxiety to become worse.

Limit caffeine intake: It’s important to limit caffeine intake. If you’re already in an anxious state due to being online too much excessive caffeine intake can make it worse.

Spending time outdoors: Exercising in general is great for your overall well being. There are plenty of benefits of exercising indoors, but it’s even better when you’re outdoors. Along with improved energy levels and decreased stress being outside in the sun increases your Vitamin D intake that leads to strong bones and a strong immune system. Fun outdoor activity include hiking, kayaking, running, walking, cycling, rock climbing and camping. It’s important to wear sunscreen when going out in the sun and be mindful of current weather conditions, for example if its too cold you’ re at risk of frostbite and hypothermia and when its too hot you’re at risk of heat exhaustion and dehydration.

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Keeping Anxiety To A Minimum While Car Shopping, Part 2.

This week’s blog is the second part of a two part blog about minimizing anxiety while car shopping.

How Can You Keep Car Shopping Anxiety to a Minimum?

Ask Yourself Some Questions

These include, “Can I afford this car”, “What kind of a car do I want?”, “How am I going to pay for it”, “How much is my old car worth”, “Should I buy new or used”. Also, ask “what if”? What if something unexpected comes up or What if I have buyer’s remorse? 

There are many benefits to asking questions including: 

  1. We get better answers the more we question
  2. The quality of our lives depends on it 
  3. Asking questions can make you wiser and more open.

Do your Homework

In my previous blog I mentioned the causes of stress and anxiety when you’re car shopping and also the pros and cons of buying or leasing a car. Here’s a link to last week’s blog: 

For me personally, doing my homework ahead of time about the car I want and being aware of possible stressors that cause anxiety can help me make better decisions when a deal is being made. 

What else should you do?

  • Researching Prices Online
  • Ask a Friend What They Think?
  • Learn Some Valuable Car-Buying Vocabulary
  • Check into a Dealer’s Reputation
  • Check What Kind of Financing you Qualify for
  • Get an Insurance Quote
  • Learn About any Past Damage Done to a Car
  • Test Drive the Car
  • Don’t Buy the Car Based on Looks

Get Your Finances Together Ahead of Time

Here are some things that should be put into consideration when you’re getting your finances together.

What to do ahead of time:

  • Check Your Credit Score
  • Get Pre-Approved For a Car Loan
  • Set Your Budget Based on Loan Offer
  • Find The Car You Want
  • Review The Dealer’s Offer
  • Choose and Finalize Your Loan
  • Make Payments On Time

Dress for Success

From my experience dressing up in nicer clothes can help with boosting confidence and reducing anxiety when you’re negotiating with the dealership. When you dress-up whether business casual or a full suit you radiate self-respect and self-worth. Also, when you look good, you feel good meaning that higher self-esteem can equal a more positive mental attitude that can minimize anxiety.

Take a Day Off from Work

According to cars.com the average time spent at the dealership is more than three hours. 

The time is spent:

  • Negotiating The Deal (Up to 41 minutes or more)
  • Selecting The Vehicle You Want To Buy (Up to 49 minutes or more)
  • Time Spent at The F & I Office (Up to 32 minutes or more)

If you do your homework ahead of time through internet research before you venture into the showroom it can save you time when you’re car shopping.

Also, taking a day off from work during the week can save a lot of time. The dealerships are the busiest on Saturdays and Sundays, because this is when most people have time off. When I took a wednesday off from work to go car shopping I noticed that it was not busy at all, especially when the dealership first opens.

After doing my research about the car I wanted I headed for the dealership at 10am; since I knew what I wanted ahead of time, being aware of how much to put down and the dealership was not busy, I was out of there in only an hour and a half.

This helps me a lot to plan ahead. I know that I can be anxious when there are time restraints when I have to take time off during the work day and have to come back to work by a specific time. By taking the entire day off I’d have plenty of time at the dealership and I’d be more relaxed.

https://www.cars.com/articles/buying-a-car-takes-more-time-at-the-dealer-1420663300693/

Learn How To See Things from the Other Party’s Perspective

It’s important to learn how to see things from the dealership’s perspective. Consumers would be surprised to learn how little money is made selling a new car, for example it’s assumed that thousands of dollars are made selling a new car, but in fact the dealership only makes on average $1,000 to 1,500 on a sale. Instead, dealerships make most of their money in parts and service and make a higher profit margin selling used cars.

It’s also expensive to run a dealership between operating expenses including salaries and benefits for its employees. 

Putting all these factors into perspective you can see why car shopping can be stressful for both parties and realizing this can make the negotiating process less stressful when you learn why a dealership will try to do some of the things they’re known to do, such as trying to sell you add-ons like an extended warranty or nitrogen for your tires.

Alternatives to the Dealership Experience

Car shopping has a notorious reputation for being the consumer’s least favorite experience. Between the stress and anxiety of negotiating and haggling with the dealership over a car it is generally not the most enjoyable experience. 

Here are some alternatives to the dealership experience:

  • Buy Online: Buying a car online is a way to avoid spending time in an auto dealership. Thanks to the internet it’s possible to handle most or all of the tasks associated with purchasing a new or used vehicle. Shopping online can occur anywhere there is an internet connection.
  • Car Brokers: A car or auto broker manages the car buying process on the behalf of the consumer. Car brokers offer a free or inexpensive service that often takes much of the haggling out of the car buying process. Most consumers can save hundreds if not thousands of dollars when they hire a car broker.
  • Car Auctions: An auction is a public sale in which goods or property are sold to the highest bidder. Car auctions or dealer auctions have cars that are about $1,000 to $2,000 cheaper than buying retail, however dealer auctions are usually not open to the public and are only accessible to dealers that have a license. There are public government auctions open to the public through law enforcement agencies, but another way to access a dealer auction is through going online. Online auctions are accessible through websites such as eBay Motors(www.eBay.com), Salvage Bid (www.SalvageBid.com), Auto Auction Mall (www.AutoAuctionMall.com), Copart (www.Copart.com) and IAAI (www.IAAI.com)

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