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Importance of Having A Purpose

What Does It Mean To Have A Purpose?

Purpose is a reason why something is done or used. It also refers to the feeling of being determined to do or achieve something.

Most adults want to live a purposeful and fulfilling life. They want to improve themselves and also give back to others.

However, in reality the majority of adults have no clear sense of purpose in their lives. 

What Happens When Your Life Has No Purpose?

 It’s interesting how having no sense of purpose in your life can cause problems.

Living A Lifeless Life

There is such a thing as a lifeless life. 

Imagine not wanting to wake up every morning, but also not wanting to go to sleep at night. 

Picture yourself with no will to work, no friends or company to spend time with. Also, no reason to continue living.

Your mind is blank with nothing to think about. Also you lack emotions, whether negative or positive.

A lifeless life is one with nothing to look forward to.

An Anxious Life

A life that lacks purpose can be an anxious one. 

When your life lacks purpose it’s senseless. It might feel like nothing you do in life is connected and doesn’t fit.

Anxiety is triggered when your mind thinks your life is in danger. 

However, a lack of purpose triggers anxiety as well. Your brain translates a lack of connection as a threat to your life. It sees anything that doesn’t seem fit as dangerous.

Lack Of Motivation

A lack of purpose leads to a lack of motivation. 

Little or no motivation comes from anxiety that prevents you from taking action. The anxiety comes from not not being connected with your goals and purpose.

Affects Your Overall Health

A life without purpose is not good for your overall health.

The strain on your mind from a lifeless life leads to increased stress and anxiety. 

There’s a connection between mind and body. Your strained mind not only leads to hair loss and fluctuating weight, but there’s also less tolerance to pain and a higher risk of heart disease.

The Importance of Having Purpose

A sense of purpose is very important to have. It’s the  motivation that drives you toward your future. However it also helps you put your life into perspective right now.

What Does Perspective Mean?

Perspective is the way you see something or how you see yourself.

Having a sense of purpose guides life decisions, influences your behavior, shapes your goals, offers a sense of direction and creates meaning in your life. 

It also leads to a change in perspective. For example having a healthy sense of purpose causes you to see life in a better way and see yourself in a better way as well.

Tangible Benefits Of Having Purpose Include:

Get The Motivation To Get Things Done

Being connected to a purpose gives you sustained energy and keeps you motivated.

Having a sense of purpose leads to strong personal motivation. It’s that driving force which allows you to achieve your goals and go after what you want.

Reduced Stress and Anxiety

Anxiety comes from the doubt and distress that comes with trying to find your purpose.

However, once you find your purpose you’ll find that you’re less stressed and anxious when you’re no longer in doubt about your life.

Helps You When Things Go Wrong

Finding your purpose helps you to become more confident, resilient and focused. When something goes wrong in your life you’ll be able to face it and refocus on getting back on the right path.

Improved Health

If lack of purpose leads to poorer overall health then finding purpose has the opposite effect. Feeling less stress and anxiety when connected to your purpose leads to a lower risk of heart disease and overall better health.

How To Find Purpose?

We were all born with a unique life purpose.

The most important actions to take are to identify, acknowledge and honor your life purpose.

Tips For Finding your Purpose:

Explore What You Love

Your purpose is something that’s not something that you make up. Instead it’s already there; you just to need to explore it.

For example your purpose should be something that comes natural. If you’re naturally good at blogging then explore it some more until you master it.

Follow Your Inner Guidance

Let your heart be your guide.

One of the main ways your heart can be your inner guide is by noticing your feelings. These are feelings that come with warmth and encouragement.

Be Clear About Your Purpose

Keep your mind focused on your purpose once you’re clear on what it is. The feeling you get from following your heart is the joy that your purpose brings, which brings clarity.

Align Your Goals With Your Life Purpose

Once you know what your life purpose is, it’s important to organize all your activities around it.

If your purpose is to help others through blogging, move ahead and align yourself with that role.

Lean Into Your Life Purpose

Learn how to lean into your life purpose little by little.

When you start to live your purpose notice subtle changes in how your life changes and how you see yourself.

Have You Found Purpose In Your Life?

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Sources:

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/purpose

https://www.lifehack.org/879897/life-without-purpose

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/docs/default-source/senseability/sense-of-purpose-hand-out.pdf?sfvrsn=2

https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/perspective

https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/what-life-purpose

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Limiting Beliefs In A Nutshell

In my previous post the topic was about improving your unhealthy self-perception. However, I’d like to discuss something that’s a reflection of how you see yourself. I’m referring to limiting beliefs.

When you perceive or see yourself in a healthy way you’re more aware of who you are as a person. For example you’re more aware of your strengths, weaknesses, talents and potential and you take responsibilities for your thoughts and actions.

However, when you see yourself in an unhealthy way you’re more likely to be unsure of yourself and your abilities. This can manifest itself as a toxic belief system that inhibits your growth as a person.

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What Are Limiting Beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are assumptions or perceptions about ourselves and the world around us that constrain us in some way.

We’re unaware that we end up impoverishing our lives when we follow these beliefs and this is due to a number of negative effects. They can keep us from making good decisions, taking advantage of new opportunities or reaching our full potential. 

Limiting beliefs leave you stuck in a negative state of mind. They prevent you from living the life you want. However, have you wondered where limiting beliefs come from?

Where Do Limiting Beliefs Come From?

Different things that happen in our lives shape our limiting beliefs. 

Things that shape limiting beliefs include the following: 

Past Trauma: Something traumatic that happens to you as a child can remain stuck in your psyche. When this happens it’s like a record that skips and stops you in the same place over and over.

Your Family’s Belief System: The belief system of your family plays a role in how you view and interact with the world. For example if you’re from a family that values playing it safe in life you might be convinced that you’re not good enough to any other path.

Expectations From Family: You’re raised with certain expectations. For example you’re expected to go to college and get a 9 to 5 after graduation because it’s a safe option. However, you’re more interested in starting your own business, but underlying guilt about meeting expectations and fear of judgement from family can leave you feeling stuck.

Relationships With Friends and Significant Others: Limiting beliefs can impact how you view the world. For example if you were bullied as a child in school, betrayed by a friend or were cheated on by a significant other it causes you to see all people as untrustworthy.

Types Of Limiting Beliefs

According to Inc.com there are 3 types of limiting beliefs. 

Unhealthy Beliefs About Yourself:

When you conclude that you’re a failure that won’t amount to anything in life, this belief will prevent you from being your best self.

Unhealthy Beliefs About Others:

There are limiting beliefs about everyone being out to get you, everyone is untrustworthy or manipulative it can be impossible to develop relationships.

Unhealthy Beliefs About The World:

If you believe that you can’t succeed, because the world is unfair and scary, then it will take a toll on you and make you feel stuck.

In my next post I’ll be offering tips for changing your limiting beliefs and this will include the story of my personal transformation after changing mine.

Have You Ever Had Limiting Beliefs?

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Sources:

http://changingminds.org/explanations/belief/limiting_beliefs.htm

https://business.tutsplus.com/tutorials/what-are-self-limiting-beliefs–cms-31607

https://www.lifehack.org/858652/limiting-beliefs

https://www.inc.com/amy-morin/3-types-of-unhealthy-beliefs-that-will-drain-your-mental-strength-make-you-less-effective.html

https://tomillama.com/blog/limiting-beliefs

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What is Burnout and How is it Handled? Version 2.0

What is Burnout?

Burnout is an emotional, physical and mental state caused by excessive and prolonged work-related stress. It occurs when you feel emotionally drained, overwhelmed and no longer able to meet constant demands.

Anyone can be inflicted with burnout regardless of who you are. Modern society has glorified stress and we all want to be viewed as the best, so we tend to keep quiet and shut up about the stress we face.

Burnout is a personal and complex issue that affects an estimated 28% of working Americans overall. The rate of burnout is higher depending on your career path. If you work as a highly stressed out professional like a Surgeon or a Physician the rate of burnout is more than 50%.

Busyness and stress are so commonplace that we have a hard time telling the difference between being temporarily bogged down by stress and having a much larger problem like burnout.

Burnout can spillover into everyday life and can affect your home, work and social life.

The type of burnout being discussed in this blog is workplace burnout.

Burnout is characterized by:

Physical Symptoms: These include chest pains, heart palpitations, shortness of breath, gastrointestinal pain, dizziness, fainting and headaches.

Cynicism: A common symptom of burnout that’s characterized by the belief that people are only out for themselves and no one can be trusted. This can cause  loss of enjoyment, pessimism about the future and feelings of isolation.

Detachment: A feeling of disconnection from others or from your environment. 

Feeling a Lack of Accomplishment: A perceived lack of success characterized by feelings of apathy, hopelessness and feelings of ineffectiveness. Overtime this leads to lower productivity and poor performance at work.

Lower Resistance to Illness: Burnout overtime can lead to the depletion of the body’s immune system and making someone more prone to infections, colds, flu and other immune related ailments.

Depleted energy levels: The early stages of burnout can leave someone with a lack of energy and feel tired most days. Over time they’ll feel physically and emotionally exhausted and start having feelings of dread about what tomorrow brings.

Loss of Appetite: Someone may not feel hungry and skip a few meals, but they may lose their appetite altogether and start losing a significant amount of weight.

Anxiety: Starts out as mild symptoms of tension, worry and eagerness. Overtime anxiety can become so serious that it interferes with your ability to work productively and can cause problems in your personal life.

Depression: It starts out as feeling mildly sad and occasionally feel hopeless, guilty and worthless. Prolonged stress of burnout can make depression worse by making someone feel trapped and in severe cases can make them think that the world would be better off without them. If depression gets that severe call a professional.

Sleep Problems: Someone may have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep at least one or two nights a week. Overtime they can develop insomnia.

Why Do We Get Burned Out?

Burnout can be caused by:

Heavy Workload: Trying to do more work than we can complete and can cause stress.

Lack of Control: When we’re given an appropriate level of responsibility and have the tools or resources needed to do our jobs well we’ll feel satisfied and competent in our jobs. However, if we don’t have those things we can feel a lack of control.

Insufficient Reward: Sufficient rewards include financial rewards like high pay and good benefits, social rewards such as recognition from the company we work for and Intrinsic rewards such as the feeling that we’re doing a job well. Burnout happens when all three of these rewards are lacking and we start feeling dissatisfied. 

Lack of Community: If a workplace has a strong sense of community that includes good team work, low levels of conflict and positive social interactions it can make a workplace less stressful. However, if the opposite is true and there’s no team work, high levels of conflict and negative social interactions the workplace can become toxic and more stressful.

Absence of Fairness: We can develop feelings of being disrespected if there is a perceived lack of fairness in the workplace. Many examples of perceived unfairness include unequal workload or pay, workplace cheating, promotions and evaluations being mishandled and disputes being resolved poorly.

If these workplace related issues occur it’s important to talk to your employer or talk to a colleague.

Can Personality Traits Play A Role In Burnout?

According to Forbes.com personality traits can play a role in burnout.

The Workaholic: An individual that is performance oriented and struggles with lack of self-care and a neglected personal life.

The People Pleaser: An individual that is overly agreeable and feels responsible for how other people feel. They tend to have trouble saying “no” due to putting someone else’s needs before theirs.

The Perfectionist: An individual that strives for flawlessness and setting high performance standards. They feel like impostors on the inside.

There are many problems that occur that can make you more prone to burnout:

Debt: Student loans, credit card debt, mortgages and car loans.

Uncertain Work: Lack of job security.

Unrealistic Expectations: Having expectations that are beyond your energy, skills, talents and time.

Being Time-Poor: No finding time to take care of yourself.

Financially Struggling: Financial worries are a major source of stress.

Bad Sleep Habits: Not getting at least 8 hours of sleep a night can make you less resilient to stress.

Drinking Too Much Coffee: Drinking too much coffee can make anxiety worse.

Sedentary Lifestyle: Anxious from lying on the couch watching TV and eating the wrong foods.

 What Can We Do About Burnout?

Burnout doesn’t go away on its own and it gets worse if it’s causes aren’t addressed.

Get Help: Burnout can be a serious health problem, so it’s important to see a professional for treatment.

Focus on your own health and well being: Focusing on sleep, exercise and eating well can help you recover from burnout. Getting at least 8 hours of sleep a night can replenish our health and well being by boosting our immune system and allows for our bodies to repair themselves. Exercise is beneficial for both health and well being along with eating a diet rich in fruits and vegetables.

Find a Release: Finding a way to let off some steam is very important for your health and well being along with relieving work related stress. Whether it’s gardening, video games, hiking or kayaking these activities are not only fun, they’re good for letting off steam.

Take a Vacation: It’s important to get away from it all, whether it’s a long weekend in the mountains, a vacation in Florida or even working remotely in a park, coffee shop or at home.

Realign Your Life to What You Really Want: Burnout may be caused by an underlying problem with what you are doing with your life. Are you happy in your job? Should you quit your job? What is your purpose in life? It’s important to ask these questions, because feeling stuck in a life you’re not happy in can spin you into a burnout loop.

Learn How to Say “no”: Saying no is very important for maintaining healthy boundaries and enables others to have clarity about what they can expect from you.It’s also important for deflecting distractions, staying true to yourself and you won’t beat yourself up mentally.

Overhaul Your Life: If the burnout loop continues even after rest and relaxation there might be a much bigger problem. It’s important to learn that your success not only hinges on good grades and hard work, but also your ability to be resilient in the face of stress. 

It’s possible to be successful without burning out. It starts with leaving behind the mindset and habits that cause stress to build up and to make choices that lead to better overall health and well being.

  • It’s very important to reevaluate your life to pinpoint what is leading to burnout. 
  • Break free from burnout by identifying what your needs are. 
  • Hire a life coach to help you break burnout inducing habits. 
  • Identify personalized strategies to boost your resilience.  

How do you handle stress to avoid burnout?

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