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How To Stop Social Media Triggers!?

Social Media is a big part of 21st century life.

Using it has brought benefits to its users, however using social media has a lot of triggering effects like loneliness, anxiety and depression.

Let’s learn how to stop social media triggers!

What Is Social Media?

Social Media refers to websites and applications that allow users to be part of a social network. They allow users to create and share content.

Different Types Of Social Media Include:

  • Social Networks: Websites such as Facebook that allow users to post information, comments, images and messages.
  • Microblogging: Sites such as WordPress that allow anyone to post comments to a micro blog that attracts an audience.
  • Photo Sharing: Sites such as Instagram that allow users to share digital photos online.
  • Video Sharing: Online video platforms such as YouTube allow users to upload, convert, store and playback video content on the internet.

What Is Social Media Used For?

Social media platforms help users connect, share and give information and connect with millions of other users.

It’s important not to ignore social media, since it is an important part of our lives today.

There are roughly 3.5 billion people worldwide that use social media. That’s 45% of the world’s population. As of 2019 an additional 360 million people started using social media.

What Are Some Pros and Cons Of Social Media?

Pros Include:
  • Marketing Tool: Social media can be used for marketing a business. Since so many adults use social media it is a great for getting leads.
  • Self Education: Social media platforms such as YouTube have changed how we teach ourselves. Whether it’s a video blog (vlog) or a video posted by a college professor social media has changed how we learn. 
  • Build Relationships: At its root the purpose of social media is about connecting people to people. As you build these relationships there are opportunities to tap into new networks that may open up new opportunities.
  • Share Your Expertise: Social media is great for sharing what you know. Sharing what you know can attract other connections.

Cons Include:
  • Depression And Anxiety: A major effect of social media is being a trigger for depression and anxiety.
  • Cyberbullying: A person can be bullied by another person on social media through triggering messages.
  • FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out): We get anxious seeing something more exciting going on in someone else’s life. We also feel jealous and angry when we think we’re missing out.
  • Internet Addiction: Using social media can turn into an addiction. 
  • Unhealthy Sleep Patterns: The overuse of social media via electronic devices makes it harder to sleep.
  • Poor Body Image: Social media can cause a user to have a poor body image. They may start comparing themselves with other users. 
  • Half Baked Ideas About Life: Social media paints a picture of what life should be like and we become addicted to posting the perfect post in order to receive likes. 

How To Stop Social Media Triggers?

The triggering effects of social media harm a user’s mental health.

There are users called trolls that cause a lot of problems for other users.

What Is A Troll?

A Troll is a social media user that starts fights or upsets other users. They post triggering and off topic messages in order to provoke other users.

Once a user has a presence on social media, it’s hard to totally avoid trolls. I’ve learned over time how to handle them.

Not letting trolls bait you online is good for your mental health.

Tips For Handling Trolls Before You Get Triggered:
  • Be Empathetic: A troll might be having mental health problems of their own. They may use social media to vent their problems.
  • Be Aware Of The Issue: Before things gets out of control, find out why the troll is angry. If it’s being caused by something you’ve done, apologize for it.
  • Take It Offline: Talk to a troll privately through private messaging.
  • Ban Or Block Them: A troll may have to be banned or blocked. Especially if they’re still trying to trigger you.

How Do You Handle Social Media Triggers?

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A Simple Solution To The Loneliness Epidemic!?


I’ve Been Hearing a Lot About Loneliness

When I was doing my research for my previous post about holiday related loneliness. I’ve stumbled upon some interesting facts about how the way people interact with each other has changed over the years. 

It was said that 2019 was a record year for people who preferred to find relationships online vs. face-to-face. 

About 40% of couples meet each other online now vs. through family and friends. Most teens prefer to chat online than in person. We no longer have to leave the comforts of home to meet new people.

Is the rise of the internet going hand-in-hand with the rise in the proportion of people who feel lonely?

What is Loneliness? And it’s Consequences?

Loneliness is an emotional state. It’s characterized by symptoms such as anxiety, stress, depression and sleep disturbances. It’s caused a lack of human connection from not having deep and meaningful relationships. 

The terms lonely and alone are used interchangeably, however they don’t necessarily mean the same thing.

There are many single people that live solitary lives, but don’t feel lonely. There are many people in committed relationships that are always around other people that feel lonely. 

Two Types of Loneliness

There Are Two Types Of Loneliness:

  • Acute Loneliness: Occurs when a life change such as a job loss, loss of a relationship/death of a loved one.
  • Chronic Loneliness: Occurs when the uncomfortable emotional state of being lonely goes on for a long time.

Health Effects of Loneliness

We all will experience loneliness at least once in our lives, but has many negative effects on physical and mental health. 

These Include:

  • Stress, Depression and Anxiety: Feeling lonely can lead to an increase of stress and results in depression and anxiety.
  • Lack of Self-Care: The negative effects that loneliness has on your mental health can lead to a lack of motivation to eat right and exercise.
  • Increased Cortisol: Cortisol increases the amount of glucose that enters the bloodstream, enhances your brain’s use of glucose and increase the substances that repair tissues. However, prolonged stress caused by loneliness can lead to too much cortisol and this can wreak havoc on your body.
  • Lower Immune System: Loneliness can affect your body’s immune system.
  • Cardiovascular Problems: Loneliness can make you more susceptible to high blood pressure, stroke and heart disease.
  • Obesity: Loneliness along with lack of exercise, overeating and an increase of cortisol leads to obesity.

According to webMD loneliness has the potential to be just as deadly as obesity and smoking.


The Loneliness Epidemic and Its Causes

All of us will experience loneliness sometime or another. We will all end up in situations that can lead to the depletion of our social networks.

Feelings of loneliness are usually temporary. However, there are a lot of people that are lonely all the time. It’s estimated that ½ of all Americans report either having no meaningful friendships or they chronically feel lonely.

Social isolation that leads to loneliness is not just a problem for the elderly or the homebound. It’s also a problem for younger people. The largest group of chronically lonely people are adults age 25 to 44. However the loneliest group of all are young adults aged 18 to 25. 

Do You Notice A Pattern? 

There have been many social and technological changes over the years that have changed how we make friends. In the past face-to-face interaction was more common than it is now. Meaningful friendships were formed through our workplaces, family and friends and community organizations. What changed? 

Since the 1980s there have been changes in the economy. This led to more people taking temporary jobs or taking other full jobs after a short period of time. Another thing that changed was less participation in community organizations; more people had to work longer hours and didn’t have as much time to socialize with others.

The changes in the economy required more people to move to unfamiliar cities. They took more temporary work assignments and had to move again when the assignment was over. These factors can make it hard to form meaningful friendships.

The Rise Of The Internet

The biggest change of all was the rise of the internet, especially the rise of social media.

Social media has led to many positive changes, but it led to alot of negative ones. It has led to a decline in face-to-face interactions with the people we associate with.

However, there has been a decrease in the quality of our face-to-face interactions as our communication skills suffer.

Also, many people have become more antisocial. They’re more complacent with the idea of sitting behind a computer screen.

I’ve mentioned many times in this blog about the overuse of technology on our mental health. Issues such as anxiety, sleep issues, FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and loneliness.

We’re relying on online relationships more than real life ones. It’s making it harder to form meaningful connections.

What is The Solution To Loneliness?

This is a tough question, because everybody is different. What worked for me may work for other people, but it may not work for others.

What does work is for you to find your tribe or community. As a species we humans are naturally hardwired to make other connections with other people.

Our ancestors lived in communities to increase their chances for survival. They had a shared interest in hunting and gathering food. Later on this led to agriculture and other shared interests included religion, customs, traditions and culture appeared. 

The Rise Of Post-Modernity

Since the beginning of modernity there has been less emphasis on community. Instead there was more emphasis on unifying the world under a single point of view.

Since the end of world war 2 we have been entering a period of something called post-modernism. The world is no longer standardized under a single point of view. We are going back to forming communities of like minded people that share the same point of view as us.

The formation of communities also works. Individuals or groups of people gather for a common interest in a particular hobby or profession. They can also share the same relationship status.

The place to start is ironically through using social media. A positive part of social media is being able to network with like minded through sites like facebook or meetup.com. 

This solution to the loneliness epidemic has shown positive results. Many previously lonely people have reported fewer hospital visits and better physical and mental health.

Conclusion

The loneliness epidemic is one of the biggest public health challenges. It’s not only in the United States, but worldwide as well.

Reducing social media usage and reemphasizing face-to-face interactions are a simple solution to an otherwise complicated problem.

This post was written in 2019. As of 2020 face-to-face interactions have been harder due to COVID-19. Try connecting through zoom or FaceTime if you can’t connect face-to-face.

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https://www.webmd.com/balance/features/loneliness-epidemic-consequences

https://www.forbes.com/sites/neilhowe/2019/05/03/millennials-and-the-loneliness-epidemic/?sh=183ba867676a

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https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2018/05/01/606588504/americans-are-a-lonely-lot-and-young-people-bear-the-heaviest-burden

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Limiting Beliefs In A Nutshell

In my previous post the topic was about improving your unhealthy self-perception. However, I’d like to discuss something that’s a reflection of how you see yourself. I’m referring to limiting beliefs.

When you perceive or see yourself in a healthy way you’re more aware of who you are as a person. For example you’re more aware of your strengths, weaknesses, talents and potential and you take responsibilities for your thoughts and actions.

However, when you see yourself in an unhealthy way you’re more likely to be unsure of yourself and your abilities. This can manifest itself as a toxic belief system that inhibits your growth as a person.

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What Are Limiting Beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are assumptions or perceptions about ourselves and the world around us that constrain us in some way.

We’re unaware that we end up impoverishing our lives when we follow these beliefs and this is due to a number of negative effects. They can keep us from making good decisions, taking advantage of new opportunities or reaching our full potential. 

Limiting beliefs leave you stuck in a negative state of mind. They prevent you from living the life you want. However, have you wondered where limiting beliefs come from?

Where Do Limiting Beliefs Come From?

Different things that happen in our lives shape our limiting beliefs. 

Things that shape limiting beliefs include the following: 

Past Trauma: Something traumatic that happens to you as a child can remain stuck in your psyche. When this happens it’s like a record that skips and stops you in the same place over and over.

Your Family’s Belief System: The belief system of your family plays a role in how you view and interact with the world. For example if you’re from a family that values playing it safe in life you might be convinced that you’re not good enough to any other path.

Expectations From Family: You’re raised with certain expectations. For example you’re expected to go to college and get a 9 to 5 after graduation because it’s a safe option. However, you’re more interested in starting your own business, but underlying guilt about meeting expectations and fear of judgement from family can leave you feeling stuck.

Relationships With Friends and Significant Others: Limiting beliefs can impact how you view the world. For example if you were bullied as a child in school, betrayed by a friend or were cheated on by a significant other it causes you to see all people as untrustworthy.

Types Of Limiting Beliefs

According to Inc.com there are 3 types of limiting beliefs. 

Unhealthy Beliefs About Yourself:

When you conclude that you’re a failure that won’t amount to anything in life, this belief will prevent you from being your best self.

Unhealthy Beliefs About Others:

There are limiting beliefs about everyone being out to get you, everyone is untrustworthy or manipulative it can be impossible to develop relationships.

Unhealthy Beliefs About The World:

If you believe that you can’t succeed, because the world is unfair and scary, then it will take a toll on you and make you feel stuck.

In my next post I’ll be offering tips for changing your limiting beliefs and this will include the story of my personal transformation after changing mine.

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https://www.inc.com/amy-morin/3-types-of-unhealthy-beliefs-that-will-drain-your-mental-strength-make-you-less-effective.html

https://tomillama.com/blog/limiting-beliefs

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Is Mass Media Feeding Your Anxiety? Version 2.0


How Do You Feed Your Anxiety?

I mentioned in a previous post about the fear of the unknown. It occurs when we’re faced with something that’s unfamiliar or something we don’t understand. 

We become anxious about what that unknown thing means for our lives; most of us cope by exercising, listening to music or connecting with friends. However, there are some people who seek out information in an effort to resolve their anxiety; it may or may not be true and sometimes it ends up being misinformation that causes us to become more anxious toward that unknown thing they fear.

Misinformation refers to false or inaccurate information. Sometimes its due to errors or inaccuracies caused by false rumors, insults, pranks or embellishment; other times it’s due to disinformation caused by the deliberate falsehood by design and this includes malicious content such as hoaxes or propaganda.

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What are the Sources of Misinformation?

Misinformation along with disinformation and propaganda has been around as long as mass communication; which began with the development of the printing press at the end of the 14th century. 

In today’s world we are constantly bombarded with mass media including the mainstream media and social media.

The mainstream media consists of news organizations and their websites. They are always competing with each other for ratings or views and they’ve always embellished news stories.

To embellish something is to add something more interesting or entertaining to add extra details to a news story, especially the ones that are not true.

Due to the rise of internet news organizations along with social media mainstream media news organizations have seen a decline in ratings among the coveted 18 to 49 year old age demographic. Not only news media, but television viewership in general. Declining viewership had meant declining quality in the form of embellishment.

Social media is emerging as the main source of news online; along with other digital technologies. Platforms such as Facebook, Twitter and YouTube have allowed journalists to instantly report just by using their smartphones.

Over 77 million Americans have a social media profile. Being on social media allows you to easily connect with a large audience. It’s an effortless way to connect with like minded people regardless of location with just a single click.

Observers often lack the skills and motivation to interview participants to get the full unvarnished story. This can lead to the reporting of news that’s often distorted by the observers built-in bias (prejudice), intended to inflame public opinion or to play down the impact of an event known only to the observer.

More often than not social media will only give you news and information tailored to what it thinks you want to read about.

What are the Consequences of Misinformation?

The effects of misinformation on your mental health is the same as gaslighting.

Gaslighting is described as a form of manipulation and control in which a victim is systematically and deliberately fed false information that leads them to question their own self-worth and even their sanity. It can occur as a form of emotional abuse in our personal and professional relationships, but overtime misinformation  from the media can have the same effect.

Constantly being fed false information can contribute to a victim’s sense of hopelessness and confusion and lead to mental health problems such as anxiety and depression.

An example of gaslighting by the media has been the news coverage of the Coronavirus.

According to scientists we know that the Coronavirus is officially called COVID-19; it comes from the same family of viruses as the common cold. 

COVID-19 is a new strain that has not been identified in humans; it’s zoonotic meaning its transmitted between animals and humans.

It’s recommended that to prevent the infection from spreading you need to wash your hands more frequently, cover your mouth when you cough and sneeze and to avoid close contact with anyone showing any of the symptoms listed above.

Since COVID-19 is a disease that was not previously known it’s only natural that people all over the world are experiencing anxiety and fear. I mentioned in a previous post about the fear of the unknown; it is a human instinct intended to protect you from potential threats. 

The amount of anxiety people are experiencing varies widely; since there’s an absence of clear cut resolutions many people are worrying and trying seek out more information in an effort to relieve their anxiety.

However, people seek information through the news; whether it’s through mainstream media or social media. The news is either embellished to exaggerate the story in order to get you to watch it more or the information is full of errors and inaccuracies that cause you to be in a constant state of confusion and make you feel hopeless as your anxiety worsens.

The constant negative news coverage has led to a form of collective gaslighting that’s making us more anxious than we have to be.

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Don’t Want To Feed Into Your Fears? Here’s What To Do?

Focus On What You Can Control: If you’re feeling anxious and you’re seeing to resolve those feelings. Instead of using news media to try to resolve anxious thoughts you refocus your attention on what you can control, because to tell you the truth you have no control over things that are either happening or will happen. However, you are in control of how you react to what’s happening or to what you fear. 

Be Mindful That You’re Not The Only One Feeling Anxious: It’s comforting to know that you are not the only ones feeling anxious. If you’re looking to resolve your anxiety you’re better off talking about it with other people.

Mindfulness Meditation: The misinformation spread by the media can make it feel like reality is being distorted. Mindfulness Meditation helps you stay aware of what’s really going on; it protects your mental health and increases your attention span, along with helping out with slowing down racing thoughts and overwhelming feelings of anxiety.

Limit The Amount of Time You Consume Media: Limiting how much media you consume has many benefits including having a better ability to focus, having a greater sense of self-awareness and improved mental illness. It’s estimated that more than half of Americans experience stress and anxiety from watching the news, so reducing how much you watch is a positive.

Be Mindful About The Accuracy of The Information You Have: Start by empowering yourself with accurate information by fact-checking every piece of journalism you read and every headline you share on social media.

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Overcoming Self-Doubt (Part.2): Not Letting Self-Doubt Consume You

This is the second part of a two part series on self-doubt.

In part. 1 I discussed what it means to have self-doubt and its causes. Now I’ll be discussing ways to overcome self-doubt.

Some Self-Doubt Is Healthy

Some level of self-doubt is healthy; it’s ok to doubt yourself once in a while. For example, doubting a decision you have made and having second thoughts can broaden your perspective and cause you to be on the lookout for new ideas and possible solutions. Over time you might also discover and eventually confront things in your life that have been dragging you down. 

Why is it Important to Overcome Self-Doubt When It Consumes You?

Self-doubt can be consuming; whether self-sabotage emerges from your own fear of failure, denying your own sense of achievement due to your lack of self-kindness or believing you’re a fraud in disguise because of your imposter syndrome.

When self-doubt consumes you it causes depression, anxiety, lower self-esteem and mood swings that can cause a loss of concentration, feelings of indecisiveness, guit, shame and worthlessness. It may bring pessimism about yourself that causes you to avoid responsibility, isolate yourself and it can lead to phobias.  

It’s important to recognize that self-doubt has an adverse effect on your life and it’s important to break the cycle of self-doubt so you can overcome it.

How Do You Overcome Self-Doubt?

Here are some tips for overcoming self-doubt:

Connecting With Good Friends: People who are always doubting themselves are always criticizing themselves. It’s interesting that good friends can be an effective personality mirror. They can reflect things back to you that you may not see about yourself. Good friends are an opportunity to talk about what’s on your mind also.

Connecting With Yourself: When I’m doubting myself or I’m feeling anxious I write my thoughts on paper; whether I’m journaling, writing this blog or writing and publishing an ebook I come to new realizations about who I am.

Don’t Compare Yourself To Others: People who frequently doubt themselves tend to get stuck in a comparison trap, especially if you’re in the habit of comparing your success to others.

Stop Giving a S%^t What Others Think: This is a big one, because when you’re anxious and always doubting yourself you become preoccupied with what others think of you. 

Learn To See Setbacks As Temporary: We have all been at a point in our lives where we have a setback and we respond by seeing things through a negative and dark lens. However, it’s more of a benefit to you to think that setbacks happen all the time, they are temporary and we can learn from them.

Sharpen Your Skills: Sometimes self-doubt can be caused by a lack of skills in a specific area. For example, if you frequently doubt yourself before a presentation then it would help to sharpen your presentation skills.

Have You Ever Experienced Self-Doubt?

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Social Media’s Role In Pandemic

It’s interesting to see the human response to the COVID-19 pandemic. I’ve already discussed how being on lockdown is leading to more active sex lives, how some people cope with their anxiety through being creative and how some people are helping others in this crisis.

In part.4 I’ll be discussing how people respond to the pandemic through social media.

What is Social Media?

Social media is a term that used to describe websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking. Social media platforms include Facebook, Instagram and Zoom.

Social Media! A Curse or a Blessing?

The consumption of social media has increased since the beginning of the pandemic. The role of social media has been paradoxical since this crisis started. It’s been a curse and a blessing at the same time.

It’s been a curse due to the large amount of misinformation about the pandemic that’s feeding into our anxiety. Also, before this crisis it was well documented that overuse of social media has been linked to low self-esteem, anxiety and depression.

However social media has been a blessing for many reasons as well.

Why is Social Media A Blessing?

Reasons Social Media is a Blessing Include:

  • Crowdsourcing: This involves seeking knowledge, goods or services from a large body of people through social media. Crowdsourcing is being used by organizations and individuals to raise funds to purchase Personal Protective Equipment (PPE).
  • A Marketing Platform: Despite some companies preying on the COVID-19 mass hysteria, there are others providing powerful and empathetic responses to this crisis. The main responsibility of brands right now is to provide for the safety and wellbeing for not only their employees, but their customers as well.
  • A Source of Information: We never had more real time information available in the face of a worldwide event until now. Social media provides information that can provide us with a better understanding of what’s occurring and how it might impact us.
  • Virtual Medicine: Virtual medicine is helping to make access to healthcare more convenient and help those who are most vulnerable. People can see and talk to a doctor through their smartphone, tablet or computer instead of visiting the doctor’s office. 
  • Keep In Touch With Family And Friends: Platforms such as Zoom make it easier to connect with family and friends remotely. Due to lockdown and social distancing many people can’t see their loved ones face-to-face, so they’re connecting via social media. 
  • Working-At-Home: Social media is being used to keep remote workers connected with their employers while on lockdown. 

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https://techxplore.com/news/2020-03-social-media-positive-possibilities-pandemic.html

https://khoros.com/blog/social-medias-role-during-covid-19

https://newsroom.uhc.com/open-enrollment/virtual-visits.html

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The Pandemic Response (Part.2): Being Creative While In Lock-down

The human response to the COVID-19 pandemic has been an interesting one; one of the most interesting aspects has been the role of art in helping people cope.

This is a difficult time for all of us and it’s really easy to fall into a pit of despair. However, it’s important to learn to see a silver lining; being in quarantine or lock down can be really scary and boring, but at the same time it’s an opportunity to indulge in self-exploration.

Creative Coping

Since COVID-19 was declared a pandemic on March 11th followed by a lockdown that resulted in not only the lockdown of individuals, but also the postponing or cancelling of mass gatherings such as ball games and concerts. I’ve noticed more people are coping with their stress and anxiety by being creative. 

Creative Coping Includes:

Art: Despite the cultural sector slowing down to a halt, some people hunkering down in self quarantine have turned to art to pass the time. Forms of art, such as painting may seem trivial, but they can offer a powerful means of connection and a welcome escape from the disorienting present.

Writing: Isolation or quarantine is a great time to prioritize your mental and physical wellbeing, along with being productive. In the early 1600’s London was under a lockdown due to a bubonic plague pandemic, which led to the closing of the famous ‘King’s Men Theatre’ that William Shakespere was a shareholder in. While in quarantine Shakespere put all of his creative energy to ride out the pandemic by writing what would become his most famous works such as ‘King Lear’ and ‘Macbeth’.

Cooking: Some people I know have passed the time while in quarantine by baking and cooking. Quarantine cooking is more than just feeding yourself, it’s also about providing entertainment and relaxation.

Playing and Writing Music: During lockdown a lot of musicians are turning to social media to broadcast their music.

Photography: This is an interesting hobby to have, especially when you want to capture images of the pandemic while social distancing.

Writing For Anxiety Relief

I’m an essential full-time employee who’s not working from home. I see the silver lining in this, because if I had to be on total lock down my mental health would be a lot worse. However, during my down time after work I’ve been writing more due to the stress and anxiety caused by the pandemic.

Pandemic or no pandemic writing is a creative outlet I’ve been using since I was growing up. I’ve noticed overtime that the more stress builds up in my life the more I want to write, so due to the pandemic I’ve been very busy writing.

I’ve been working on a big project along with the blog and when I’m finished with it I’ll be launching it at the end of this month.

You have all been such an awesome audience and my big project is intended to help you become a better you.

What Have You Done While In Lock Down?

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Increased Sex Drive In Lockdown

The current COVID-19 pandemic is causing people from over the world to respond differently to it. Some people are becoming more compassionate while others are becoming colder, some people are coping through art and music while others are coping in negative ways such as drugs and alcohol. I’ll be discussing the sexual response to the COVID-19 coronavirus.

Is The Pandemic Affecting You Sex Drive?

It’s interesting to hear about the conflicting reports about the COVID-19 pandemic having an affect on people’s sex drives.

The stress from the ongoing crisis and having to be on lockdown is putting a damper on desire for many people, but for others the stress is making them horny. 

What Are The Reasons?

Reasons For Increased Sex Drive Include:

Reminded Of Our Own Mortality: The morbid 24/7 news coverage of the pandemic is constantly reminding us of our own mortality. In order to cope we change our attitudes and behaviors in ways designed to help us cope.

Loneliness In Isolation: I mentioned in a previous blog that we’re facing a loneliness epidemic partly due to the internet adversely affecting in-person connection. Lockdown and social distancing is making this problem worse, so some people are doubling down on not only connecting with new friends online, but also online dating that involves texting and video chat along with sexting.

 Killing Boredom: A lot of singles and couples have been responding to lockdown boredom and spicing up their sex lives at the same time with the use of sex toys. It’s been reported that the same of sex toys increased since the pandemic began.

More Time On Our Hands: Due to other distractions in our lives such as working, long commutes, school, family obligations many couples have been too stressed or too busy to get intimate. Veering between social distancing and close cohabitation there have been a lot rediscovering each other while under lockdown.

Lockdown Heats Up Erotica: The COVID-19 pandemic has given birth to a new genre called quarantine erotica. Social distancing has led to the writing of raunchy stories about love in the time of COVID-19.

What Should You Be Aware Of?

If you are someone who has an increased sex drive as a reaction to this current crisis there are some facts you should be aware of.

Looming Global Condom Shortage: Due to Malaysia being on lockdown and the shutting down of factories owned by Karex, which is the largest condom company in the world had to shut down production resulting in a disruption in the global supply chain due to COVID-19. I recommend stocking up on extra condoms instead of extra toilet paper.

Online Dating Scams: If you’re starting out with online dating be aware of scammers. Online dating scams include catfishing, which is luring a victim into a relationship based on the attacker’s fictitious online persona. 

Economic Slump: Be mindful of what the economy might do during and after this pandemic. If you don’t have a job or you might be losing your job due to a downturn be careful of unwanted pregnancy.

Spread Of STIs: Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) already occur even without a pandemic, however since the medical system is tied up at the moment with COVID-19 patients it might be hard to get treatment.

COVID-19 And dating!

COVID-19 Has Made Dating Difficult: Even before the pandemic dating was already difficult. Now it’s a new challenge; due to social distancing we have to stand 6 feet from one another, we can’t hug each other or kiss each other because of the virus. Experts say that you’re at risk of catching the virus if you’re meeting someone for the first time or if you see someone, but don’t live together. If couples were already cohabitating then there’s less of a chance of getting sick. This is the reason why virtual dating is popular for singles right now.

How Are You Responding To This Crisis?

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Sources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/202004/why-the-lockdown-is-turning-some-people-others

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/04/coronavirus-roommate-loneliness-sex.html

https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/magazines/panache/intimacy-in-the-time-of-corona-home-bound-couples-find-love-as-sale-of-condoms-go-up/articleshow/74793351.cms

https://www.wired.co.uk/article/coronavirus-pandemic-sex-toys

https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/mind-and-body/how-to-deal-loneliness-self-isolation-coronavirus

https://www.dw.com/en/love-in-the-time-of-coronavirus-covid-19-changes-the-game-for-online-dating/a-52933001

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Making Leading Edge Decisions

What Does It Mean To Make A Decision?

What is Decision Making? It’s the process of deciding something based on a logical choice from available options.

When we’re trying to make a decision we take a look at the positives and negatives of the options available, along with considering the possible alternatives. 

After looking at the available options we also must be able to forecast the outcome of the final decision. 

An important factor that’s overlooked that affects decision making is being aware or mindful of our own thoughts and emotions.

Why is Good Decision Making Important?

The cornerstone of good leadership skills is the ability to make a decision and stick to it.

Decision making is an ongoing process in every business regardless of size and also in our personal lives as well. 

Having critical thinking skills allows us to approach a problem and decide on a solution that is beneficial to not only yourself, but to other members of your organization or those close to you in your personal life.

What Influences Our Decisions?

There are a lot of factors that we’re not aware of that can influence the decisions we’re making.

These factors include:

Our Thoughts and Emotions: Our own thoughts and emotions can affect our decisions, not only the nature of those decisions, but also the speed in which they’re made. If your judgement is off due to negative thoughts that lead to anger and make you impatient and cause you to make rash decisions.

Being Hungry: It’s interesting that feelings or states of being can spill over from one area to another. This occurs a lot with our physical desires, for example when we feel hungry or thirsty it can affect the decision areas of our brains. We can feel more desire for big rewards and this can motivate us to make higher risk choices and keep wanting more.

Quality of Ventilation: This is important, because the physical environment can have an effect on our physical and mental health along with our cognitive health. For example when the level of CO2 in your workplace is increased it can cause a decrease in cognitive and mental abilities and lead to poor decision making. It’s a good idea that your work environment has adequate ventilation and plants to decrease CO2 levels.

Number of Choices: Sometimes our ability to make decisions can be affected by the number of choices we have in front of us. When we’re presented with two or more choices it’s easy to look at the pros and cons of each choice. However, if we’re bombarded with endless choices whether we’re car shopping, using dating apps or entertainment apps it leads to a paradox of choice than makes decision making more difficult.

Past Experiences: This is an interesting one. Past experiences can impact present and future decision making. These include events that happened when you’re younger that shape the way you think, act and interact with people close to you.

Familiarity: Making decisions based on factors that are familiar with is deeply entrenched in our minds without being aware of it. We not only like things we’re familiar with, but we fear and judge anything that is different.

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How Being Mindful Leads To Better Decision Making?

Decision making is not always as simple as saying “yes” or “no” and it’s not always a thoughtful or cognitive exercise, instead it can be an impulsive reaction to satisfy immediate needs.

We make decisions everyday about what we eat, when we leave for work, how often we check our smartphones or what assignment to complete. We also make crucial decisions that affect ourselves and others. Many people are not aware how important day-to-day decisions really are until they make the wrong ones. 

Sometimes we fear the unknown so much that we make bad decisions due to fear and anxiety.

Conventional decision making can only take you so far, so it’s important to learn about mindfulness.

Mindfulness is the practice of focusing on the moment-to-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations and the environment around us.

Mindfulness is one of the most powerful tools for understanding your mind and focusing your attention. It can be applied in many ways including:

Mindful Breathing:  Mindfulness involves focusing your attention on your breathing. When you’re focusing on the rise and fall of your chest or the sensation through your nostrils your breath becomes an object of concentration when you start becoming aware of your mind’s tendency to jump from one thought to another.

Finding Your Purpose: Mindfulness makes you more aware of your purpose which leads to a greater sense of direction, a valued sense of self and a more meaningful life. Once you know your purpose you get to decide whether saying “yes” or “no” to a decision will ultimately serve your purpose.

Making Informed Decisions: Mindfulness can make the decision making process a thoughtful and cognitive exercise by making us aware of our impulsivity. For example, it’s important to be informed of the full impact of a decision before it’s made rather than be impulsive and regret your decision.

Finding Balance Between the Heart and the Brain: Overtime we’ve become more reliant on the human brain alone for day to day decisions. It was never meant to be the main source of wisdom and decision making. It has tendencies to push the human body past healthy limits and may result in fear, doubt and insecurities. In my previous post I mentioned that mindfulness puts an emphasis on dropping into your heart space, by doing that the brain and heart balance each other out. The brain receives the information that we make decisions from and the heart incorporates wisdom to help make good decisions.

What Do You Do Before Making Decisions?

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Sources:

https://open.buffer.com/decision-making/

https://www.bachremedies.com/en-us/emotional-health-blog/how-do-our-emotions-affect-decision-making

https://blog.hubspot.com/sales/the-psychology-of-choice

https://www.customerservicemanager.com/decision-making/

https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/mindful_breathing

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tracking-wonder/201902/mindful-approach-decision-making

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What is Stress and Simple Ways To Manage It?

I’ve been thinking about the kind of New Year’s Resolutions while I was doing research for my previous post. 

I mentioned that there are many people that make a New Year’s Resolution by changing their diets by avoiding high fructose corn syrup.

Also, there are people that vow to reduce the amount of stress they have in their lives as a New Year’s Resolution. This week I’ll be taking a look at stress and what you can do to cope with it.

What Exactly is Stress?

Stress is the body’s reaction to any change that requires an adjustment or response, whether they’re physical, mental and emotional responses. 

Stress is a normal part of life and changes from your environment, your body and your thoughts can be triggers.

Two Types of Stress

  • Acute Stress: Acute or short term stress is caused by triggers such as a traffic jam, an argument with your significant other, negative conversations or finding out that somebody broke into your house while you’re not there. 
  • Chronic Stress: Chronic or long-term stress is caused by triggers such as a disease and disorder such as a chronic illness, abuse of any kind; whether it’s mental or emotional, the loss of a job, the death of a loved one or loss of a spouse due to divorce.

Symptoms of Stress

Physical Symptoms:

  • Low Energy and Loss of Sexual Desire
  • Unexplained Aches, Pains and Tense Muscles
  • Sleep Problems
  • Lowered Immune System
  • Elevated Blood Pressure
  • Stomach Issues

Mental Symptoms:

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Being Pessimistic and Cynical
  • Forgetfulness and Disorganization
  • Poor Judgment

These symptoms occur in both acute and chronic stress. The differences occur when acute stress is short term and your body returns to a normal state and chronic stress is long-term and causes health problems when you can’t cope with it.

We’re Living in Very Stressful Times

The majority of people around the world always experience some form of stress, it’s a part of life. However, younger generations including millennials and gen z are more likely to be chronically stressed all the time. 

Have you ever noticed when you’re looking around a popular coffee shop and noticed how many younger adults such as millennials always seem on edge and unable to relax? Also, you start feeling anxious yourself just being in that environment? 

Millennials in particular have a difficult time managing stress. At least 12% of this age group has been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder which is twice the rate of previous generations. One thing that makes the Millennial Generation unique are the problems they face. There’s so much technological change and economic changes happening right now that it’s causing problems that previous generations didn’t have to face.

Technological changes

The most profound technological change in the past decade has been the rise of devices such as smartphones and tablets along with social media. 

It’s estimated that 60% of Millennials are attached to their smartphones and/or tablets and it’s been reported that stress is at a higher rate in direct association with the use of technology. 

Despite being more connected to the rest of the world like never before; many of us feel more lonely. About half of all people who constantly check their devices constantly feel isolated even when they’re among family and one-third of checkers say they are less likely to meet with their friends and family face-to-face due to technology. Why put the effort into calling somebody on the phone when you can either text them or communicate via Facebook or Instagram.

I’ve mentioned in some of my previous posts that technologies such as smartphones and social media are neither good nor bad. They have revolutionized how we live our lives, however they come with common negative effects. 

These include:

  • Unnecessary Stress and Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Sleep Deprivation
  • Internet Addiction
  • Cyber Bullying
  • Hacking
  • Cheating and Relationship Problems

Economic Changes

Economic stress affects everybody regardless of generation whether it’s triggered by changes in income caused by job loss or unexpected expenses due to a medical emergency. 

About ½ of Americans say their expenses are equal or greater than their incomes. Despite an improving economy money worries are still compounded by a rising cost of living, interest accruing on student loans and credit card debt, income volatility caused by a lack of job security and technological changes that lead to change and uncertainty in the future. 

Millennials, along with other generations face a challenging and increasingly complicated world that can lead to more stress and anxiety that can cause problems for your physical and mental well being.

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How To Be Less Stressed in 2020?

Stress will always be around in some form of another, so it’s important to learn how to cope with it as part of your New Year’s Resolution for 2020. Here are some tips to reduce stress.

Start by Using Your Devices Less So You Can Get More Sleep: I’ve mentioned in a previous post about how smartphones and tablets emit a blue light that inhibit the production of melatonin in your brain. When this happens your brain thinks that it’s still daytime and by using your devices less before you go to bed your brain will produce the necessary amount of melatonin.

Sleep Better: Get more sleep. When you get the necessary amount of sleep your body is physically and mentally rejuvenated and you’re more resilient in the face of stress.

Break Bad Habits: Bad habits that contribute to increased stress and anxiety include overeating, drinking too much alcohol, smoking, drinking too much coffee or redbull. It’s easier to cope with stressful situations if healthy habits are adopted instead including exercising more, reducing caffeine intake and eating right.

Find a New Hobby: There is nothing like a good hobby to take your mind off whatever is stressing you out. Popular hobbies include gardening, blogging, cooking along with archery, hiking, snowshoeing and I know people that like to rebuild cars for fun.

Indulge In Physical Activity: The two hormones that increase in your body when you’re in a stressful situation are adrenaline and cortisol. These are the same fight-or-flight hormones that protected our ancestors by allowing them to run away from danger quicker. When this fight-or-flight response is activated in modern times it’s important to exercise in order to metabolize these hormones and bring your body back to its normal state.

Spend More Time in Nature: Spending time in nature has a soothing effect on the mind as you breathe in extra oxygen produced by the plants around you.

Spend More Time with Family and Friends Outside if Social Media: There’s a difference between online friendships and face-to-face friendships. Online friendships can make us feel lonely despite having a connection vs. face-to-face friendships that can lead to emotional connections. Feeling connected to other people makes life less stressful.

Make More Love: I’m being 100% serious about this. Sex not only makes us feel good it’s good for us, because it can decrease symptoms of stress such as anxiety and high blood pressure.

Conclusion

Stress is a part of life and there are many healthy ways of coping with it.

How Do You Cope with Stress?

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